What should I do?? Great sex, common interests but he's flighty!?

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Lucia

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This guy I was seeing has suddenly ended us. He cant seem to handle me getting too attached to him because he needs time & struggles with feelings. He revealed to me once that he's always been hurt in relationships, all relationships end bad & thinks all girls cheat. He is an all or nothing kind of guy - think he gave it his all in his 4yr marriage but it ended 2yrs ago. Dont think he's recovered yet & not yet finalised divorce. Think she cheated on him ...

Anyway, we have amazing sex - we really are making love rather than having sex. Its always at least an 1hr to 2hr everytime - he always wants me to kiss him more & wants it to last for ages. Recently he was really touchy with me in public - almost protective.

But as this relationship is not yet official I have started to question where its going. He suddenly gets cold feet & ends us & makes out he has no feelings. He's blanked me now out of the blue & wont talk about it & says I will get hurt.

What can I do? I do like him lots & I think he was liking me too but he's scared everytime I try to define us. I try to go with the flow but I am scared too ... but willing to take a chance. He wont reply to my texts. What do I do? Give him the break he says he needs or go knock on his door & talk to him?
yes only got a couple answers yesterday - so am asking one last time to get more viewpoints b4 deciding on what i should do next ... bit confused & want to make sure i approach this right cos I do like him & im sure he was liking me too - our last date was most intense & open then this all of a sudden!
 
Let it go. Pushing him will only lead to him getting reallly frustrated and annoyed. He is still married, so its better to leave him alone. Perhaps later he will be interested in you again.
 
Sounds like he has already made up his mind and doesn't want to tell you the real reason why.

Wait for a couple weeks. Then call him to see if it was a fluke or if he really made up his mind. Until then, just try to be patient. He might come running back.

If not, why would you want to pursue this realtionship much farther? You don't want to attach yourself to some kind of headcase.
 
That is your problem stop trying to define the relationship, just go with the flow, and let things develop on it's own. This is the problem many woman make. They can never just enjoy things and let ir just flow. let him to come to you. especially someone in his situation, who has been cheated on before, he wants to take it slow, and let it develop, which I can understand. best of luck.
 
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