...a phase? my stepdaughter chelsea (age 15) used to be a bit of a dork, but my wife and i love her just the same. a year ago, i got laid off and we had financial issue, so we had to send her to live with her aunt and uncle (my wife's sister and her husband) in texas so we can try to get back on our feet. apparently she went through a huge transformation/makeover over there hanging out with her cousins katie and courtney (twin sisters) who are also in the same grade (they're a few months older). they're both tanned, blonde cheerleaders who look like they spend all their time on the beach in daisy dukes and bikini top and the funny thing is their mom (my sister in law) looks the same.
when i drove to texas to take my stepdaughter home to california in august, i almost didn't recognize her. she had a new hairstyle (grew her hair out and perm i think) with highlights, new wardrobe (mainly skimpy clothes like short shorts, skirts, crop top, tank top that show a lot of skin), belly button piercing, and tattoos on her lower back and around the waist area, tan from the tanning salon, contacts lenses, large hoop earrings, and even a new way of talking (how should i say? very valley girl like and b*tchy). she apparently became a cheerleader there and went through a few boyfriends while she was there (all jocks).
then my wife and i went through her luggages and cellphone while she was sleeping and found birth control pills, g-strings, sex toys, nude pics of herself and a few guys on her phone, and a tape of her having sex with guys. my wife hit the roof and they had been constantly arguing everyday about the choices she's making and about her new boyfriend. anyway finally last night she ran away from home.
what should i do as a dad? is she just going through a phase or should we stop her? she hasn't been answering our calls, but my in laws called and she apparently made contacts with their twin daughters through texting, but they refuse to tell the adults where she is so far.
when i drove to texas to take my stepdaughter home to california in august, i almost didn't recognize her. she had a new hairstyle (grew her hair out and perm i think) with highlights, new wardrobe (mainly skimpy clothes like short shorts, skirts, crop top, tank top that show a lot of skin), belly button piercing, and tattoos on her lower back and around the waist area, tan from the tanning salon, contacts lenses, large hoop earrings, and even a new way of talking (how should i say? very valley girl like and b*tchy). she apparently became a cheerleader there and went through a few boyfriends while she was there (all jocks).
then my wife and i went through her luggages and cellphone while she was sleeping and found birth control pills, g-strings, sex toys, nude pics of herself and a few guys on her phone, and a tape of her having sex with guys. my wife hit the roof and they had been constantly arguing everyday about the choices she's making and about her new boyfriend. anyway finally last night she ran away from home.
what should i do as a dad? is she just going through a phase or should we stop her? she hasn't been answering our calls, but my in laws called and she apparently made contacts with their twin daughters through texting, but they refuse to tell the adults where she is so far.