What proof does a person need to prove unstable environment for visitation...?

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Lynn

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My husband has joint custody, he is the custodial parent. The birth mother is always upset and fighting with her live-in bf. She's always late bringing them home, taking them to school and picking them up from school. She tells the kids not to tell us because she'll lose her visits with them, which is stressing them out. Because if the visits are taken away it puts the blame on them. Our 2 children, 6 and 8 yrs old are always coming home upset, either crying or depressed. We are very worried about them. We want them to see their Mom, but the stability of her home is getting out of hand. There's holes in the walls and busted furniture when the kids go to visit. The aftermath of huge fights between the Mom and the bf. We've spoken to her about this situation but she just laughs us off and isn't taking us seriously. We feel it's important that the kids get to see their Mom but we aren't happy with the environment the kids are being exposed to. We love them very much and it's tearing us up watching the kids going through all this. What can we do? We live in Tennessee...
I refuse to use the kids to get the proof we need. I've kept a journal since the visitation started, do you think that would be enough? And is it wrong to call child services on her, I've thought about it...
 
what can YOU do??? Nothing.... Your husband however should immediately contact the courts and tell them that he wants to, at least temporarily, suspend visits because there are some issues that need looked in to....he needs to have any documentation he can get..(her taking the kids from school, the condition of the home etc)
 
You need to contact the court and tell them. They will most likely have to talk to the children and her. Even the school can provide evidence that she is late picking them up. Also if she doesn't have a job then you could use this against her. It is never good for a parent to lose visitation, but sometimes it is needed. Best of Luck.
 
Get your kids to take pictures and/or videos. Their testimony will be a huge proof, but you will also need pictures of all of the house damage as well.

If you can't get the pics or vids, then the kids saying they don't want to go should be enough but it will depend on the judge & the court.
 
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