surroundings? First off, I don't fully understand bi polar disorder, which is why I'm asking the question.
I have been living with my friend/roomate since June 2010.
-She would eat my food and let others eat my food, until I talked to her about it
-She would invite people over without asking, until I talked to her about it, and even now she doesn't ask beforehand all the time
-She would not help clean, or sit and watch me clean, and after a while pitch in.
-Her drug use and partying has gotten worse. It wasn't a problem before, this seems new. (September til now). She used to invite just immediate friends over. This has bloomed into people neither of us know very well at all. I cannot stand the partying so I go over to my boyfriends when there is one. When I get back:
-The mess is left everywhere. She tries to get other people who spend the night to help her clean. Dishes, vomit on the rug & toilet in the bathroom, people snorting who knows what off our counters, party mess just everywhere.
-People disrespect our things. 2 people we didn't know came and ended up getting it on in her bed! Someone got his wallet stollen. People drag our couch cushions, pillows, and my own chair cushion onto the floor to sleep on. There's too many things to list.
I had a talk with her the other day. When I got back from my boyfriends and encountered the mess, I was extremely upset, but I didn't express it except for I just stayed in my room all night. I couldn't bear to look at her. She said the next day that was upset and spent 2 hours crying at her moms because I was upset with her. I feel like I can't express any sort of emotion except happiness. Later, I calmly explained that I did not want huge parties with people we don't know because they disrespect our things and because they are a liability (drugs, loud partying, underage drinking, etc).
Finally, I asked that things be picked up when I get back. I told her about the mess, especially the one in the bathroom. She told me that "Elliot and Sydney were cleaning, but they must have missed the bathroom". Does she really think that this was their responsibility to clean up? That they're the ones accountable? I didn't know what to say to this.
We also have a year old cat. Because she parties and then doesn't clean up, the cat has swallowed and passed string and 2 whole balloons. I was HORRIFIED when I discovered all of this.
She just doesn't seem to take it seriously. She said that she was in the progress of cleaning up last week and finished today. I tell her that I feel so uncomfortable that I can't come home when she throws parties. I forgot to bring a change of clothes to my boyfriends the last time and had to go to work in the exact same ones I had the day before. She did not appologize/seem concerned.
I am at a loss! I know that she has bi polar disorder. Does any of her apparent "lack of awareness" have anything to do with her disorder? Or is it just part of who she really is?
Micki, my biggest concern right now is the cat. I was completely revolted that that happened to him and I myself spent 2 hours crying because I was so worried about him. I feel like how could I bring him into our place just to ingest all kinds of crap when no one else but me is paying attention. I feel like he is my child!
Also, I am 19 and she is 20.
I have been living with my friend/roomate since June 2010.
-She would eat my food and let others eat my food, until I talked to her about it
-She would invite people over without asking, until I talked to her about it, and even now she doesn't ask beforehand all the time
-She would not help clean, or sit and watch me clean, and after a while pitch in.
-Her drug use and partying has gotten worse. It wasn't a problem before, this seems new. (September til now). She used to invite just immediate friends over. This has bloomed into people neither of us know very well at all. I cannot stand the partying so I go over to my boyfriends when there is one. When I get back:
-The mess is left everywhere. She tries to get other people who spend the night to help her clean. Dishes, vomit on the rug & toilet in the bathroom, people snorting who knows what off our counters, party mess just everywhere.
-People disrespect our things. 2 people we didn't know came and ended up getting it on in her bed! Someone got his wallet stollen. People drag our couch cushions, pillows, and my own chair cushion onto the floor to sleep on. There's too many things to list.
I had a talk with her the other day. When I got back from my boyfriends and encountered the mess, I was extremely upset, but I didn't express it except for I just stayed in my room all night. I couldn't bear to look at her. She said the next day that was upset and spent 2 hours crying at her moms because I was upset with her. I feel like I can't express any sort of emotion except happiness. Later, I calmly explained that I did not want huge parties with people we don't know because they disrespect our things and because they are a liability (drugs, loud partying, underage drinking, etc).
Finally, I asked that things be picked up when I get back. I told her about the mess, especially the one in the bathroom. She told me that "Elliot and Sydney were cleaning, but they must have missed the bathroom". Does she really think that this was their responsibility to clean up? That they're the ones accountable? I didn't know what to say to this.
We also have a year old cat. Because she parties and then doesn't clean up, the cat has swallowed and passed string and 2 whole balloons. I was HORRIFIED when I discovered all of this.
She just doesn't seem to take it seriously. She said that she was in the progress of cleaning up last week and finished today. I tell her that I feel so uncomfortable that I can't come home when she throws parties. I forgot to bring a change of clothes to my boyfriends the last time and had to go to work in the exact same ones I had the day before. She did not appologize/seem concerned.
I am at a loss! I know that she has bi polar disorder. Does any of her apparent "lack of awareness" have anything to do with her disorder? Or is it just part of who she really is?
Micki, my biggest concern right now is the cat. I was completely revolted that that happened to him and I myself spent 2 hours crying because I was so worried about him. I feel like how could I bring him into our place just to ingest all kinds of crap when no one else but me is paying attention. I feel like he is my child!
Also, I am 19 and she is 20.