My boyfriend and I live together (for the past 6 months) and we have known each other for nearly 10 years. I don't pay anything and the last time we had sex was 4 months ago, so it's not as if I'm the live-in whore. (Sometimes feels like I'm the live-in maid though!)
What would you tell me that my role is here? It's not a wife, so I don't feel like I'm entitled to demand much of anything. Is this right or wrong?
He doesn't ask about my day and seems to only get excited when he talks about himself and his work. Is this typical? I don't care much since I don't have anything to say of importance. When I have something to tell him, he lets me tell him, but I feel like I hold back since he doesn't care about it.
And I know that he can't control that his last ex-girlfriend emails him periodically to see if he's interested in her again, but here's where the second part of my subject line question falls. Do I have a right to say anything about it? Did I cross the line by emailing her myself and asking why she keeps contacting him? (Also said that I would not contact her again and apologized. Still waiting for my BF to blow up at me when he finds out... but then I'll ask why he's talking to her, right?)
I'm conflicted about what I am I guess. I don't mean to point out the negative stuff, but it's something recent and I wonder if I should just keep living there like a friend/roommate and enjoy myself. I don't have a desire to date others, so that's not on my agenda.
By the way, if this matters, he is 54, I'm 38 and neither of us is interested in marriage or having children. (Does this make us committment phobs!!??)
Okay guys, I'm not the one holding out on him! He doesn't seem to want to have sex with ME!
What would you tell me that my role is here? It's not a wife, so I don't feel like I'm entitled to demand much of anything. Is this right or wrong?
He doesn't ask about my day and seems to only get excited when he talks about himself and his work. Is this typical? I don't care much since I don't have anything to say of importance. When I have something to tell him, he lets me tell him, but I feel like I hold back since he doesn't care about it.
And I know that he can't control that his last ex-girlfriend emails him periodically to see if he's interested in her again, but here's where the second part of my subject line question falls. Do I have a right to say anything about it? Did I cross the line by emailing her myself and asking why she keeps contacting him? (Also said that I would not contact her again and apologized. Still waiting for my BF to blow up at me when he finds out... but then I'll ask why he's talking to her, right?)
I'm conflicted about what I am I guess. I don't mean to point out the negative stuff, but it's something recent and I wonder if I should just keep living there like a friend/roommate and enjoy myself. I don't have a desire to date others, so that's not on my agenda.
By the way, if this matters, he is 54, I'm 38 and neither of us is interested in marriage or having children. (Does this make us committment phobs!!??)
Okay guys, I'm not the one holding out on him! He doesn't seem to want to have sex with ME!