My fiance is 30, and we have been having some issues lately. I want sex to be a little less predictable, and a little more spontaneous. But whenever I try to come onto him in some out of the ordinary situation, he turns me down. I dont even try anymore because I am sick of being rejected... it makes me feel unwanted. We have always had great sex, but Im tired of it being so predictble, same place (the bed) same time... every now and then maybe the shower or something. I want it to be more spontaneous, like in a vehicle or outdoors.... I dont mean to give off too much detail, I hope you get my drift. I know he has done these sorts of things in the past with others.
I talked to him about it and he said with me, sex is "sacred." He has also said that sex in an emotional thing for him and that he wants to save the "fantasies" for marriage. I feel like I am his boring wifey and hes finished with the adventurous stuff of his past. I also know that he got cheated on by his first girlfriend. I thought most guys like these sort of "kinky" things (if you can even call it that) So I guess what I am asking is this NORMAL for a guy to feel this way about the act? Is it because he was wounded in the past? Am I over reacting or are these valid concerns? And what can I do about it?
I talked to him about it and he said with me, sex is "sacred." He has also said that sex in an emotional thing for him and that he wants to save the "fantasies" for marriage. I feel like I am his boring wifey and hes finished with the adventurous stuff of his past. I also know that he got cheated on by his first girlfriend. I thought most guys like these sort of "kinky" things (if you can even call it that) So I guess what I am asking is this NORMAL for a guy to feel this way about the act? Is it because he was wounded in the past? Am I over reacting or are these valid concerns? And what can I do about it?