war_mother
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I got temperary custody of my 8 year old daughter in Oct. of 2009. Her mother and I were never married, and never had a relationship...it was a one night thing. Well, after realizing that the child might not be her husband's when she was born, there was a DNA test with me and 3 other guys. I got lucky I guess and the baby was mine. My daughter came to live with me in 2009 because her mother was using coke, had a different boyfriend everyother week and no home to live in. She had left my daughter with an ex-boyfriend of hers and had nothing to her name...no job, no car...nothing. I have a lawyer, but he is sort of hard to pin down and question about all this. We had a Guardian ad Litem appointed by the court, and I paid 1500.00 for her services. She came to my home in Virginia from Maine and investigatedmy family and everything. She wrote a 36 page report about why my daughter should stay with me and not live with her mother. She said that she should be here during the school year and that she should have summer visitation with her mother, along with alternating Christmas and such visitation. My daughter's mother refused to hear of this and wanted her back. SO, she said she wanted to go to trial over it. Now I have to go up to Maine and have a two day trial so that we can see if I get my daughter back or not. Meanwhile, my daughter's mother has no lawyer...and has had since October of 09 to get one. She plays the victim every chance she gets and says she just can't afford it. She was expected to pay 1500.00 for the guardian's fee just like I had too and to date has only paid 5 one dollar bills. If I go up there, are they just going to continue this case because she doesn't have an attorney? If so, how long will they do that? I mean, she could just never get any representation and keep it continued! I need to know if I am going to get my daughter back so that I can enroll her in school, as she goes to private school an I need to pay her tuition! My daughter is there with her mother for summer visitation right now...and I really feel unsafe about her being there...considering everything that her mother has put her through in the past.