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I went out with a guy for 7 years (me being just 19 and him being just 18 at the beginning), we've broken up and got back together twice. Now he has broken up with me again stating the same reason as both times before (that he loves me but he's not in love with me).
We were living together for a year when he decided to break up with me. I think the main problem was boredom as he didn't work, didn't socialise very much and he disliked my friends. I was working but I felt like a hamster on a wheel as I paid for most things and we spent too much time together. He has depression and was not an easy person to live with at times -(I'm not perfect but he made me feel down quite a bit of the time, but when it was good it was very good).
A few weeks ago he phoned me and asked me to meet him because he misses me. I deliberated about this for a week before I agreed to meet him. He says its weird and like I've died by not being friends after spending so much time together
We met up and had a great day together, but I ended up going back to his place where we watched a movie and had sex. It was very unexpected as we had been sending mixed signals all day, so after he kissed me I took a step back to consider what I was doing (before I did the deed). I am an adult and I have been wanting some good sex for ages, so I decided to go through with it for myself.
I miss him a lot and have been asked on dates from several other men but I still love him and so far have only snogged a few of them over the 6 months that we've been separated.
I think he is immature, as he has told me that he basically wants what he cant have.
I asked him to meet up later this week because I have to sort out him getting his stuff from my house. I am unsure of what way to play this? Do I leave the ball in his court and be friends? I know I don't want to be just friends but I'm not sure if I'd want to go back to having a relationship with him? Should I just hold tight and see how it pans out (ie if he'll ever mature and decide for definite what he wants?) but have fun in the meantime.
We were very happy during periods of our relationship (when he was working, when we were both at uni etc). We are both independently back to studying and he has moved into his own place.
We were living together for a year when he decided to break up with me. I think the main problem was boredom as he didn't work, didn't socialise very much and he disliked my friends. I was working but I felt like a hamster on a wheel as I paid for most things and we spent too much time together. He has depression and was not an easy person to live with at times -(I'm not perfect but he made me feel down quite a bit of the time, but when it was good it was very good).
A few weeks ago he phoned me and asked me to meet him because he misses me. I deliberated about this for a week before I agreed to meet him. He says its weird and like I've died by not being friends after spending so much time together
We met up and had a great day together, but I ended up going back to his place where we watched a movie and had sex. It was very unexpected as we had been sending mixed signals all day, so after he kissed me I took a step back to consider what I was doing (before I did the deed). I am an adult and I have been wanting some good sex for ages, so I decided to go through with it for myself.
I miss him a lot and have been asked on dates from several other men but I still love him and so far have only snogged a few of them over the 6 months that we've been separated.
I think he is immature, as he has told me that he basically wants what he cant have.
I asked him to meet up later this week because I have to sort out him getting his stuff from my house. I am unsure of what way to play this? Do I leave the ball in his court and be friends? I know I don't want to be just friends but I'm not sure if I'd want to go back to having a relationship with him? Should I just hold tight and see how it pans out (ie if he'll ever mature and decide for definite what he wants?) but have fun in the meantime.
We were very happy during periods of our relationship (when he was working, when we were both at uni etc). We are both independently back to studying and he has moved into his own place.