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what is better, soft swinging? threesome?
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I've done both. Been in two swinging relationships - swinging was never a problem in the relationships.
I would say that if you are considering one or the other to start, I would recommend soft swinging as an easier way to get started - and less likely to have potential problems.
In "soft" swinging with another couple, you and your partner are committed - the other couple is committed - people are less likely to be attracted or tempted by the third, or similarly the partner is less likely to see the third as competition or be jealous about attentions during the threesome.
You can soft swing by going to a swingers club - or by meeting couples online on sites like swinglifestyle dot com or aff dot com. A couple is easier to find than a single woman for a threesome. A man for a threesome is easier to find - and if that is what you are looking for, and the guy in your couple is not jealous and is only eager to please the woman with a threesome, those experiences can be great too. I'm not talking about boy on boy action - but two guys on one woman. Women can really enjoy that.
The con is that the guy in the couple (if the couple is new at this) might be jealous of the guy, get uncomfortable about having the guy there or whatever.
In soft swinging, although a second guy will be there - there will also be the second woman there. What you end up with is basically a bunch of different threesomes going on at the same time.
Very enjoyable.
Neither one of these is bad - it just depends on what you want. If you are looking for a woman for a FMF threesome - good luck, they are called unicorns by swingers because they are hard to find and difficult to catch.
Good luck.
I would say that if you are considering one or the other to start, I would recommend soft swinging as an easier way to get started - and less likely to have potential problems.
In "soft" swinging with another couple, you and your partner are committed - the other couple is committed - people are less likely to be attracted or tempted by the third, or similarly the partner is less likely to see the third as competition or be jealous about attentions during the threesome.
You can soft swing by going to a swingers club - or by meeting couples online on sites like swinglifestyle dot com or aff dot com. A couple is easier to find than a single woman for a threesome. A man for a threesome is easier to find - and if that is what you are looking for, and the guy in your couple is not jealous and is only eager to please the woman with a threesome, those experiences can be great too. I'm not talking about boy on boy action - but two guys on one woman. Women can really enjoy that.
The con is that the guy in the couple (if the couple is new at this) might be jealous of the guy, get uncomfortable about having the guy there or whatever.
In soft swinging, although a second guy will be there - there will also be the second woman there. What you end up with is basically a bunch of different threesomes going on at the same time.
Very enjoyable.
Neither one of these is bad - it just depends on what you want. If you are looking for a woman for a FMF threesome - good luck, they are called unicorns by swingers because they are hard to find and difficult to catch.
Good luck.
I think its like any relationship. You have consequences, with swinging, usually you've found a couple to be with and that's fine, they are together, in love and happy it's just a night of fun and crazy sex with another couple. With a threesome, you are inviting someone into your relationship. I personally couldn't handle someone touching my bf, but that's just me. Its a personal choice, I have friends that have threesomes and they say its exciting and fun. I guess the only way to know is to have one, be sure that you are ok with it and that in the end, you will be happy with the outcome.
Fidelity loyalty and being a couple without any interference. Grow up. If the relationship means anything to you it would be unthinkable to screw it up. If you are into that rot then you really should not be in a relationship because you don't understand commitment and dedication.