My sister has to go to court ordered counseling for an issue that occurred due to her underage drinking. A few minutes before she needed it, she asked me to fill out a form for her. I wasn't sure what it was exactly. Our parents are lawyers, and they've been constantly telling her what to say and what not to say so as to come off correctly. I wasn't sure how they, or my sister, wanted me to fill the form out, so I tried to answer it honestly. However, I'm worried I messed it up. I'm a perfectionist, and I would have worked on it for, well, weeks had I been given the chance, but for at least a half an hour would have been good, so I could have had time to think. As soon as she left with it I realized I made a completely elementary mistake with one of my commas, and now that reflects badly on who she chose to vouch for her. Along with that, I felt rushed and made a completely lame comment about her being a great sister (which is true, but it sounds trite).
I'm also worried that I sent the wrong message to my sister. My parents don't want her to get into more trouble so they wanted her to say this was a one time thing (they DO believe that to be true, but I know otherwise). I know she's actually worried she's an alcoholic, but I didn't want her to get in trouble, so I put on the form that alcohol doesn't cause problems for her with friends or family (because it doesn't, though one of my parents is an alcoholic so I know exactly what it can lead it into). I'm scared I made her think I believe her problems to be insignificant and that I don't notice the issue. I just was so scared of messing stuff up for her. My thought is that she still has to go to counseling and will tell the person herself (since she wants to get better), and that this way there's no risk of ruining what she and our parents have accomplished in terms of diminishing the legal repercussions.
I'll try talking to her later, but I know I'm going to fail miserably. I'm never sure if she wants to tell me this stuff. Even though we're only a couple of years apart in age, she still sees it as me being her little sister.
Am I a bad, insensitive person? Do you think I ruined the form and hurt her feelings? If it matters any, I also have anxiety and get really freaked-out when I feel I've failed or done a disservice to someone, so I'm never sure if I'm overreacting or if my feelings make sense.
Thank you.
I'm also worried that I sent the wrong message to my sister. My parents don't want her to get into more trouble so they wanted her to say this was a one time thing (they DO believe that to be true, but I know otherwise). I know she's actually worried she's an alcoholic, but I didn't want her to get in trouble, so I put on the form that alcohol doesn't cause problems for her with friends or family (because it doesn't, though one of my parents is an alcoholic so I know exactly what it can lead it into). I'm scared I made her think I believe her problems to be insignificant and that I don't notice the issue. I just was so scared of messing stuff up for her. My thought is that she still has to go to counseling and will tell the person herself (since she wants to get better), and that this way there's no risk of ruining what she and our parents have accomplished in terms of diminishing the legal repercussions.
I'll try talking to her later, but I know I'm going to fail miserably. I'm never sure if she wants to tell me this stuff. Even though we're only a couple of years apart in age, she still sees it as me being her little sister.
Am I a bad, insensitive person? Do you think I ruined the form and hurt her feelings? If it matters any, I also have anxiety and get really freaked-out when I feel I've failed or done a disservice to someone, so I'm never sure if I'm overreacting or if my feelings make sense.
Thank you.