Andrew Smith
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I have to admit, I'm sort of writing this out of frustration at the moment, but I might as well do it while I'm in the spirit.
I, to put it simply, am frustrated at the current state of the world. But, rather than focusing on many of the other things which make me cynical at age 18, I'd rather focus on one specific end. Sex.
Now, I'm an 18 year old male, which basically classifies me as one of the horniest things on the planet. Fine, I can live with that, and moderate it healthily. But, I'm confused.
You see in the past it has always been men saying, "Will you do me." and then girls saying, "Nope!"... so why has it been the other way around for me. Twice. I have a great respect for the females around me, they deserve the best. Yet, in college, I hear so many guys talking about how they got with a girl last night, then one the night before, and how awkward it was to see the girl the next day.
Funny thing is, they're getting ahead with it, holding girlfriends for more than 3 months. A week after both situations where the girls asked if I wanted to have sex with them and I politely explained that I wanted to wait longer to see if we were right for each other, and because I didn't want to take anything from them they might regret later on (referring to the obvious, their virginity.) One took at as, "He's just not into me." and the other was... alright she was a little off her rocker so we'll ignore her in this case as she may detract from my point.
Obviously, I was extremely interested in her... physically and mentally, but I cared more about her mental state then her groin. I wish she did as well. But instead I was the bad guy.
Now... 30 years ago, there were sluts who slept with everyone and did what they pleased, and then there were women who stuck with 1, possibly two sexual partners in their life time and were perfectly content. Now, according to many friends, 3 sexual partners in two years is perfectly fine, but other girls are sluts for the same thing... because of the way they act? Yes... that's what determines how promiscuous you are, the way you act, not how many people you sleep with... right?
Maybe that's just my experience with it. I don't understand how those who simply use women for a good lay at a party are somehow further along and happier than a person like me, who would work to protect a girl's virginity regardless of how horny I was.
Is this common? Are there any girls out there who believe that sex, one of the most intimate acts a man and woman (or man and man, or woman and woman) can perform, should be saved? That's it's still considered "Making Love" and not just "Getting Laid"? Or am I way behind the times?
I, to put it simply, am frustrated at the current state of the world. But, rather than focusing on many of the other things which make me cynical at age 18, I'd rather focus on one specific end. Sex.
Now, I'm an 18 year old male, which basically classifies me as one of the horniest things on the planet. Fine, I can live with that, and moderate it healthily. But, I'm confused.
You see in the past it has always been men saying, "Will you do me." and then girls saying, "Nope!"... so why has it been the other way around for me. Twice. I have a great respect for the females around me, they deserve the best. Yet, in college, I hear so many guys talking about how they got with a girl last night, then one the night before, and how awkward it was to see the girl the next day.
Funny thing is, they're getting ahead with it, holding girlfriends for more than 3 months. A week after both situations where the girls asked if I wanted to have sex with them and I politely explained that I wanted to wait longer to see if we were right for each other, and because I didn't want to take anything from them they might regret later on (referring to the obvious, their virginity.) One took at as, "He's just not into me." and the other was... alright she was a little off her rocker so we'll ignore her in this case as she may detract from my point.
Obviously, I was extremely interested in her... physically and mentally, but I cared more about her mental state then her groin. I wish she did as well. But instead I was the bad guy.
Now... 30 years ago, there were sluts who slept with everyone and did what they pleased, and then there were women who stuck with 1, possibly two sexual partners in their life time and were perfectly content. Now, according to many friends, 3 sexual partners in two years is perfectly fine, but other girls are sluts for the same thing... because of the way they act? Yes... that's what determines how promiscuous you are, the way you act, not how many people you sleep with... right?
Maybe that's just my experience with it. I don't understand how those who simply use women for a good lay at a party are somehow further along and happier than a person like me, who would work to protect a girl's virginity regardless of how horny I was.
Is this common? Are there any girls out there who believe that sex, one of the most intimate acts a man and woman (or man and man, or woman and woman) can perform, should be saved? That's it's still considered "Making Love" and not just "Getting Laid"? Or am I way behind the times?