Cocoa Butter
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My brother married a woman who had two children from a previous relationship.
(so did he- together they have 5 children- since she just had one with him)
My brother (being the man that he is) adopted her children (they are now 11 and 9) gave them his lastname, because their natural father was not in their lives. As a matter-of-fact, when he last seen them he told them "forget all of ya'll" out of anger towards their mother. He disappeared. Even his mother ( their grandmother) had very little to do with them, in all these years.
Now, they call my brother 'dad'- he is there. at the games, the extra-curriculars. They call me Aunty, my mom - Nana. etc...Out the clear BLUE- there real dad calls. He tells the mother, he's been thinking about them lately. He understands they have a new family- but he just wants to be involved.
I know, that is his right. But, I honestly think it is more 'competition' with my brother who stepped up. See, the family pics etc...are all on facebook etc...certainly, he has seen them. And his son is a great athlete with a future ahead of him. Of course, my brother is the one cultivating that talent(football) whats funny is, his real dad used to play football. I can only imagine the pride he feels when he see's the pics of his son playing ball. The pics my brother is taking.
So now, real dad wants to be involved- he called, asked could they spend the night (and they did), but it feels funny to my brother to hear them call him 'dad'. yet, he is their dad. I told my brother, he shamed him. Another man took on his responsiblity.
What do you think? does he have a right?
(so did he- together they have 5 children- since she just had one with him)
My brother (being the man that he is) adopted her children (they are now 11 and 9) gave them his lastname, because their natural father was not in their lives. As a matter-of-fact, when he last seen them he told them "forget all of ya'll" out of anger towards their mother. He disappeared. Even his mother ( their grandmother) had very little to do with them, in all these years.
Now, they call my brother 'dad'- he is there. at the games, the extra-curriculars. They call me Aunty, my mom - Nana. etc...Out the clear BLUE- there real dad calls. He tells the mother, he's been thinking about them lately. He understands they have a new family- but he just wants to be involved.
I know, that is his right. But, I honestly think it is more 'competition' with my brother who stepped up. See, the family pics etc...are all on facebook etc...certainly, he has seen them. And his son is a great athlete with a future ahead of him. Of course, my brother is the one cultivating that talent(football) whats funny is, his real dad used to play football. I can only imagine the pride he feels when he see's the pics of his son playing ball. The pics my brother is taking.
So now, real dad wants to be involved- he called, asked could they spend the night (and they did), but it feels funny to my brother to hear them call him 'dad'. yet, he is their dad. I told my brother, he shamed him. Another man took on his responsiblity.
What do you think? does he have a right?