what do you do with atwo year old that constantly whines?

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Hold uhm,,,love uhm,,,do special lil things 4 them,,,be nice to them.....Slow down for more than 2 seconds and say'' I love you child'' .....

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You can start by not giving the two year old what he wants just because of whines. Get down on his level and tell him/her that in order to get what he/she wants, he/she needs to tell you without whining about it. If it's something she/he cannot have, explain the reason why they can not have it in a firm but kind tone. Do not give in once this is said. No matter the whining. don't get mad either.And give some extra other attention when there hasn't been any whining. Be sure to reward when the child has asked forsomething without being whiney.

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I think most two year olds are like this. I agree with Mandy's above answer. Patience and loving.

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ignore it, they only do it because it works, if you stop letting it work, then they wont do it anymore, itll be very hard to break the habbit, but youll be glad you did

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Get yourself some high quality, noise cancelling headphones. They work wonders. After a while you'll forget that your 2 year old even exists.

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You should probably 'listen' so that you know what the child is really whining about. Is it always the same thing? Do they whine ALL the time? The two year old probably needs some good old tender loving care - it's called being listened to. Children whine if they know it gets them what they want -- as others said, don't give in. But DO listen. Bad attention is better than no attention - that is how children feel. Give some positive attention!

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Give them things to do, involve them in what your doing, if your folding the washing let them have a go at the tea towels or something alittle easier, if you go to the shops give them a grocery list of their own with 1 or 2 items on it & make them feel important and needed. Little things like that can make a day thats boring seem really exciting for a two year old.

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Don t make him stop, he could become the next " James Blunt" or "Howie Day" ...

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Obvioiusly, love him but that alone will probably not solve the problem. My wife had a great idea (that I think she learned in school) to have a "naughty wall". Make him/her sit on it whenever he/she disobeys you. If he/she continues to whine after you ask him/her to stop, put him on the naughty wall for two minutes (a minute for each year of age). Works for us at home, malls, grocery stores, etc. We have even pulled over while driving and had "naughty dirt".

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If you have a playpen still, sit the child in the playpen at the first whine and tell them that as soon as they can speak nicely they can come out...then walk away (not too far because you want them to see you "busy" until they start talking nicely). If no playpen, you can use the bottom step of the stairs to sit them down or a kitchen chair... whereever works. This is a modified time out letting them know the behavior is unacceptable but it also places them in control of how long it goes on. Stand your ground, don't give in...if they get up, sit them back down. The first few times are hard as the child is pushing the limits to see if you will back down...it's a battle of wills that you have to win.

Consistency is the key. If your child knows exactly what is going to happen each and every time they whine and it doesn't change from time to time...soon they will stop whining because it gets them nowhere.

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tell them one time that you will no longer talk to them if they whine. You will only acknowledge them when they speak as a 2 year old not a baby. I did it and it works. As long as they whine ignore them or remind them to speak and not whine in order to be listened to. When they speak correctly , listen well.

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sit them in a time out chair for 2 minutes and tell them that when he can tell you what he wants without whining then he can come out but if he starts whining again put him back in there alot of kids will have theses fits to get what they want and if its not stopped now it will only get worse , bring your self to the childs level (geton your knees ) and talk to him making sure you use words that he can understand adn let him know that mommy dont like when he whines and if he wants something he has to ask for it without whining , the other thing is if its something the child shouldnt have explain to him why he cant have it never say because i said so , if its something that you cant afford to get him then try to make a reward system and tell him if he does this adn that that he will get this in the end ie a star chart tell him when the stars reach a certain point on the chart he can get that special toy or treat ,

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I know it gets very annoying when a child is whining. My granddaughter has whined since she was 1 month old, she is now 5 1/2 yrs old and she still whines. The more you try to get her to stop the worse she gets. I mean she will literally whine for 2 to 3 hours straight NON-STOP at the very least 2 times a day. It is a low pitched sound, that could drive a person to drink. But we have learned to try and tune it out, because she wants and expects a response from us. It has gotten a little bit better, but I think she is just a very sensitive and emotional child. But I have had daycare kids at the age of 2 and they whined quite frequently but they soon grew out that phase to enter the phase of back talking.

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You can NOT reason with a 2 year old.
Don't try.
If it is a physical problem, then pay attention to him/her. If he/she is just whining for no reason, he/she is trying to push your buttons. Ignore him/her. Don't sit him/her down and try to reason it out, you can't do it with a 2 year old, and you will prove to him/her that it bothers you, which is what he/she wants.

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Ignore the bad behaviour and praise the good with plenty of cuddles and lots of love.

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