...your back.? Hi,
I'm sorry. Its long I just want to make sure my situation is clear enough for everyone to understand.
I was living with my brother and his fiancee when I was 16. I am 20 now and after a year of living in another city I have moved back in with my brother and his fiancee for a short while.
The first time we lived together things got a bit catty near the end and I moved out. We've reconciled since then and I thought this time around there would be no problems.
My sister-in-law is the type of person that will talk shit behind your back but when it comes to face-to-face confrontation she won't say a word...unless shes drunk. The way it happened before when we were fighting was if she had a problem with something I was doing she would tell my brother and he would tell me off about it..
Since i've been back my brother has made some comments to me... like just about the stupidest things. For instance i used their laundry basket one time and he wasn't around when i used it but his fiancee was. A few days later he just happened to suggest i "go out and get my own damn laundry basket". Today I was half asleep in my room and I woke up hearing her bitching about how I had the phone in my room.(The walls are paper thin btw) My brother has become accustom to dealing with her problems so automatically I hear his footsteps coming towards my room and her saying "No no..its fine its fine". And then she went off on another rant. I snuck out a bit after that and put the phone back on the hook. I haven't taken it since cause I'm scared shes going to say something to my brother again and i will get yelled at. Its a horrible feeling to actually hear someone talk about you behind your back.
I feel horrible because i'm a very timid person.. I don't mean to do bad to anyone and she just makes me feel like a horrible person. I don't want to touch anything of theirs now because Im scared if i do she will go off again. I just thought it would be ok to maybe borrow the laundry basket or use the phone since it is technically my brothers house and she doesn't work or do anything. Im realy upset over this.. these things are so minor... and its horrible knowing shes thinking these things about me but acting perfectly nice to my face. I don't want to dislike my sister-in-law and i thought we had gotten over our differences but I guess she hasn't. What should I do? Do I confront her and risk another big blow out since my brother always takes her side and never acts as a mediator or do i ignore it and just move out and continue on with my life? Any advice would be very much appreciated.
I'm sorry. Its long I just want to make sure my situation is clear enough for everyone to understand.
I was living with my brother and his fiancee when I was 16. I am 20 now and after a year of living in another city I have moved back in with my brother and his fiancee for a short while.
The first time we lived together things got a bit catty near the end and I moved out. We've reconciled since then and I thought this time around there would be no problems.
My sister-in-law is the type of person that will talk shit behind your back but when it comes to face-to-face confrontation she won't say a word...unless shes drunk. The way it happened before when we were fighting was if she had a problem with something I was doing she would tell my brother and he would tell me off about it..
Since i've been back my brother has made some comments to me... like just about the stupidest things. For instance i used their laundry basket one time and he wasn't around when i used it but his fiancee was. A few days later he just happened to suggest i "go out and get my own damn laundry basket". Today I was half asleep in my room and I woke up hearing her bitching about how I had the phone in my room.(The walls are paper thin btw) My brother has become accustom to dealing with her problems so automatically I hear his footsteps coming towards my room and her saying "No no..its fine its fine". And then she went off on another rant. I snuck out a bit after that and put the phone back on the hook. I haven't taken it since cause I'm scared shes going to say something to my brother again and i will get yelled at. Its a horrible feeling to actually hear someone talk about you behind your back.
I feel horrible because i'm a very timid person.. I don't mean to do bad to anyone and she just makes me feel like a horrible person. I don't want to touch anything of theirs now because Im scared if i do she will go off again. I just thought it would be ok to maybe borrow the laundry basket or use the phone since it is technically my brothers house and she doesn't work or do anything. Im realy upset over this.. these things are so minor... and its horrible knowing shes thinking these things about me but acting perfectly nice to my face. I don't want to dislike my sister-in-law and i thought we had gotten over our differences but I guess she hasn't. What should I do? Do I confront her and risk another big blow out since my brother always takes her side and never acts as a mediator or do i ignore it and just move out and continue on with my life? Any advice would be very much appreciated.