What do you do if your married to someone that never wants to be intimate with you.?

[Jim]

I am always doing things to try and make her feel good. SHe had a child before we got married and only seems to care about whats important to him. The father has never been in the picture and here i took on a load of responsibility. I work 55 hours a week to support our family and im told im not there for her. We were having a rough patch so i surprised her with a hotel room when i thought her son was going out of town. I decorated the room had some candlelight going and even got her a new outfit for the night. Her son didn't end up going out of town so i thought we could at least get a few hours of alone time together and come back that night. Her son is 15 years old. When we got the hotel and realized we were not meeting my dad there for dinner she didn't seem so excited. Her son then called when we got to the hotel and said there was a strange car int he driveway. I said ok lets run home make sure he is ok and then go back to the hotel. We got back home everything was fine but she didn't want to go back to the hotel. I ended up spending the night by myself. Is this normal?
I am not insencitive and I work so i can help my family eat and have money to be able to live. I would call that selfless.
I am not insensitive and I work so i can help my family eat and have money to be able to live. I would call that selfless.
I have tried talking to her and she is very cold . Her son is not a special needs child. Because the father has never been in the picture she feels guilty having a good time without him.
When i got married I thought for better or worse. DIvorce is always an option but i never really wanted it to be my option. I do love her but its really hard when you do not get it back