What do I do to get my husband to understand that im NOT trying to argue with him?

[Seriously]

Every time my husband makes me really mad about things and i try and tell him how i feel, he refuses to talk about it and says he doesnt feel like arguing. What can i do to let him know that i dont want to argue i just want to explain to him how he made me feel and that it seems like he doesnt care about how i feel. Am i nagging? If thats considered to be nagging, thats so retarted because someone who cares about a person will care what i have to say and atleast apologize for hurting me, even if he feels like he did nothing wrong. Just the fact that he hurts me deserves an apology. It seems like he doesnt care and i dont know how to get it through him that, instead of him thinking i want to argue- think of it as im trying to tell him how i feel and thats IMPORTANT.........How can i make him understand? i dont think i can take too much of his inconsideration for too long, im trying my best.