What can I do to help my military husband who hates his job?

[Jenn]

My husband has been in the Air Force for 12 years. He used to love his job as a flier, but now he hates it and is miserable all the time. We are stationed in Japan now. He hates it here and he hates the squadron he is in. I can understand the madness, because his job does yank him around a lot and ruin a lot of our plans. He feels stuck. After being in as long as he has, he plans to stay in until he retires so we can get the pension and medical benefits. I would rather see him get out and work toward something he wants to do for the rest of his life. He thinks it's more practical and responsible to stay in to take care of his family, etc. It makes me feel guilty when he talks like this. I know he doesn't mean to sound so resentful, but he does at times. What can I do to help keep him sane for the next 8 years? He hates it when I try to cheer him up. This new assignment has changed him. He used to be pretty satisfied with his job and enjoyed life. Now he is moody and hopeless all the time. This put some strain on our marriage a year ago. We're doing much better there, but sometimes I'm afraid of a relapse. How can I help him when so much is wrong in his life?