unexpected
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I am 22, 23 in July. I am inexperienced sexually, although I'm not a virgin. My inexperience has ruined many times when I've brought a girl back. I've got to a stage where I don't bring girls back. Instead I've tried to meet interesting girls away from night clubs. I've had a few relationships but they always fizzle out way before we've even gone near to the stage of having sex. I'm always fairly busy but never turn down opportunities to spend time with the girls.
I naturally tend to see only one girl at a time but always am left wondering why I turned down the opportunities to see a few girls instead of pursuing one.
I have no troubles attracting a girl at a club and getting her to come home with me but I'm always a failure in bed.
What I want is sex on the regular, once I've got to know the person well. The sex I've had in the past was the girl who I lost my virginity to, who I knew for years and 2 random drunken sex with strangers. It seems that I can't get it up after one bottle of beer but if I'm too drunk to control myself, I can perform. Problem is, when I'm too drunk to control myself I can't get the girl back home with me.
I know that I sound like I'm treating woman like an object here, but really, I do respect woman.
The ideal situation for me would be to meet someone new in an unexpected place and get to know her intimately slowly over time before making love.
But that hope is dwindling and it's making me unhappy. I've dealt with it for the last 3 years and I'm sure I can carry on dealing with it but it'd be nice to get advice to help me open myself up and be someone worth knowing intimately.
The funny thing is, I don't have any problems making friends, girls and boys. I used to only know boys when I went to boys school but since university 3 years ago, I've probably got more girl friends. Problem is, I'm so desperate, I wouldn't say no to sleeping with them! But I'm controlled enough not to cause embarrassment.
The problem is probably that I'm too controlled, closed and uncomfortable around new situations.
Please put down any constructive opinions/advice you can think of...
Thanks
I naturally tend to see only one girl at a time but always am left wondering why I turned down the opportunities to see a few girls instead of pursuing one.
I have no troubles attracting a girl at a club and getting her to come home with me but I'm always a failure in bed.
What I want is sex on the regular, once I've got to know the person well. The sex I've had in the past was the girl who I lost my virginity to, who I knew for years and 2 random drunken sex with strangers. It seems that I can't get it up after one bottle of beer but if I'm too drunk to control myself, I can perform. Problem is, when I'm too drunk to control myself I can't get the girl back home with me.
I know that I sound like I'm treating woman like an object here, but really, I do respect woman.
The ideal situation for me would be to meet someone new in an unexpected place and get to know her intimately slowly over time before making love.
But that hope is dwindling and it's making me unhappy. I've dealt with it for the last 3 years and I'm sure I can carry on dealing with it but it'd be nice to get advice to help me open myself up and be someone worth knowing intimately.
The funny thing is, I don't have any problems making friends, girls and boys. I used to only know boys when I went to boys school but since university 3 years ago, I've probably got more girl friends. Problem is, I'm so desperate, I wouldn't say no to sleeping with them! But I'm controlled enough not to cause embarrassment.
The problem is probably that I'm too controlled, closed and uncomfortable around new situations.
Please put down any constructive opinions/advice you can think of...
Thanks