Ma is 85 years old, barely could walk, mentally still good but opinionated and prejudicial.She lives with 3 of my nieces aged early 30's but are singles. I lived in this same town, married and with children. One elder brother who is married too with children also lives in this town.We have one eldest brother and one eldest sister, both married too and are both wealthy but are living away from our hometown.
Problem started when mom last year got her most serious medical conditions, was hospitalized and siblings have to pitch in to support her welfare and conditions. At first this elder brother in the same town was, as always, "picked" as financial handler on family matters like this so eldest brod and sis would send financial support for mother's welfare but shortly eldest brod got suspicious of him.Their relationship got sour as time goes while my relationship with him (brod in the same town) also got worse because of his backfighting, jealousy and anger shown me during mother's confinement.Eldest brod and eldest sister have their own issue too and are not in good terms either.
Now most financial support come from my eldest brother who would send to me for mother's medical needs while I myself do the most hands on care for ma with a hired nurse and yaya. Meanwhile this elder brother in town is ma's "favorite" son who do nothing but is most trusted in my ma's and sis' eyes, whom ma is most dependent upon with regards her assets and money. This favorite son together with his wife always malign my good intentions and ma is fearful and always suspicious of me. Needless to say, all assets or money ma has are all in his hands or control already.
So the 3 nieces who stay with ma in the same house together with this "favorite" son and eldest sister aren't really doing anything for ma while the bulk of the burden are in my hands. While eldest brother supports my good intentions, he is also burdened with the fact that ma would always side with her "favorite" son and her favorite niece too who is my eldest sis' daughter!
Though I'm hurt with the fact that my love and care isn't reciprocated or recognized by no less than my own mom, my conscience bother me that I cannot leave her welfare to other members of the family here in town. What can I do?
Problem started when mom last year got her most serious medical conditions, was hospitalized and siblings have to pitch in to support her welfare and conditions. At first this elder brother in the same town was, as always, "picked" as financial handler on family matters like this so eldest brod and sis would send financial support for mother's welfare but shortly eldest brod got suspicious of him.Their relationship got sour as time goes while my relationship with him (brod in the same town) also got worse because of his backfighting, jealousy and anger shown me during mother's confinement.Eldest brod and eldest sister have their own issue too and are not in good terms either.
Now most financial support come from my eldest brother who would send to me for mother's medical needs while I myself do the most hands on care for ma with a hired nurse and yaya. Meanwhile this elder brother in town is ma's "favorite" son who do nothing but is most trusted in my ma's and sis' eyes, whom ma is most dependent upon with regards her assets and money. This favorite son together with his wife always malign my good intentions and ma is fearful and always suspicious of me. Needless to say, all assets or money ma has are all in his hands or control already.
So the 3 nieces who stay with ma in the same house together with this "favorite" son and eldest sister aren't really doing anything for ma while the bulk of the burden are in my hands. While eldest brother supports my good intentions, he is also burdened with the fact that ma would always side with her "favorite" son and her favorite niece too who is my eldest sis' daughter!
Though I'm hurt with the fact that my love and care isn't reciprocated or recognized by no less than my own mom, my conscience bother me that I cannot leave her welfare to other members of the family here in town. What can I do?