Sorry this is so long, but I really need opinions. Im 16 and my girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago. We had been dating for 5 months. The main problem with our relationship was that she would never show me enough affection. I would always do little nice things for her, like writing her a song ( we're both guitarists, majoring in music for a living), a poem, and writing her little love letters, and asking her how I could make her day better or happy? I don't think I smothered her or anything. I'd maybe suprise her with something like that once every few weeks, because it made you happy, and that made me happy 
. I just wanted a little of that back 
. I mean she would hug and kiss me back, but never really initiated that kind of stuff. I would ask her why she never did more of that kind of stuff to me. I would tell her that it makes me feel ask if she doesn't love me or care about me, or think about doing those things for me. I would tell her that its not about me criticizing her or trying to change her. I just want you to hold me hand more, or hug me more, so I know you care. She always took it as me criticizing her, which I thought was so unfair and wrong. It's not fair that she turns that around on me, and acts like im an abusive boyfriend because she doesn't care enough to show me she loves me. I wasn't really asking for much more. I understand that not everyone is so lovey dovey like me. I just wanted to know that she cared, and wasn't going to leave me...and then she got fed up with me saying that, so she left me. I know we didn't date for long, but we had so much in common, and were so happy that we promised each other that we'd always be together. It just hurts :'(. I guess it was foolish to promise that. She broke up with me because she said that she knew she was a crappy girlfriend, and that I deserve better, and that she just cant take the pressure and the drama. She said she really wanted to be best friends, and I agreed, but I needed time. But 5 days later she told me she liked another guy (her friend, which I TOLD her I trusted her enough to talk to, and let them be friends while we were dating). Now she talks to him in the hallway to our AP music theory class together, and they laugh and have stand in front of the classroom. She promises me that she didn't leave me for him...but I just have a hard time believing that...I dunno. I told her that she only wants to date him, because she feels crappy about herself for being such a crappy girlfriend, and she wants a new relationship to make her feel wanted and reassured. I mean there were times when I was threatening to break up with her, because it bothered me so much, and she told me that she couldn't live without me...thats obviously not true... I think shes just totally oblivious to feelings or how actions affect other people. I mean I asked her why she did this to me, and if she really loved me, then why didn't you tell me how amazing I am, and how this is about her and not me, and promise me id find someone better. Not flirt with another guy in front of my face, and make me feel replaced. I mean they're doing the same exact things we used to do. She told me herself...I just feel replaced. I told her that we cant be friends, because I don't want people so oblivious and heartless in my life. I know you're just going to hurt me again. Good luck to you and your new guy. I don't hate you, I just don't respect you right now. Even though you've hurt me, I still want you to be happy and have a good life. Good luck with everything. (that was a text. For some reason she never wants to talk over the phone. Its stupid)
. I just wanted a little of that back . I mean she would hug and kiss me back, but never really initiated that kind of stuff. I would ask her why she never did more of that kind of stuff to me. I would tell her that it makes me feel ask if she doesn't love me or care about me, or think about doing those things for me. I would tell her that its not about me criticizing her or trying to change her. I just want you to hold me hand more, or hug me more, so I know you care. She always took it as me criticizing her, which I thought was so unfair and wrong. It's not fair that she turns that around on me, and acts like im an abusive boyfriend because she doesn't care enough to show me she loves me. I wasn't really asking for much more. I understand that not everyone is so lovey dovey like me. I just wanted to know that she cared, and wasn't going to leave me...and then she got fed up with me saying that, so she left me. I know we didn't date for long, but we had so much in common, and were so happy that we promised each other that we'd always be together. It just hurts :'(. I guess it was foolish to promise that. She broke up with me because she said that she knew she was a crappy girlfriend, and that I deserve better, and that she just cant take the pressure and the drama. She said she really wanted to be best friends, and I agreed, but I needed time. But 5 days later she told me she liked another guy (her friend, which I TOLD her I trusted her enough to talk to, and let them be friends while we were dating). Now she talks to him in the hallway to our AP music theory class together, and they laugh and have stand in front of the classroom. She promises me that she didn't leave me for him...but I just have a hard time believing that...I dunno. I told her that she only wants to date him, because she feels crappy about herself for being such a crappy girlfriend, and she wants a new relationship to make her feel wanted and reassured. I mean there were times when I was threatening to break up with her, because it bothered me so much, and she told me that she couldn't live without me...thats obviously not true... I think shes just totally oblivious to feelings or how actions affect other people. I mean I asked her why she did this to me, and if she really loved me, then why didn't you tell me how amazing I am, and how this is about her and not me, and promise me id find someone better. Not flirt with another guy in front of my face, and make me feel replaced. I mean they're doing the same exact things we used to do. She told me herself...I just feel replaced. I told her that we cant be friends, because I don't want people so oblivious and heartless in my life. I know you're just going to hurt me again. Good luck to you and your new guy. I don't hate you, I just don't respect you right now. Even though you've hurt me, I still want you to be happy and have a good life. Good luck with everything. (that was a text. For some reason she never wants to talk over the phone. Its stupid)