What are your in-law problems?

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My in-laws are nothing short of crazy. Half of them are racist (my husband being white and me being bi-racial), the other half are jealous that my children are smart and athletic yet they don't put in the effort to get the same results that I do. They spread vicious rumors about me and each other and it's a little nerve-wrecking to say the least!

Do you have these issues and if so how do you recommend being the bigger person and not letting it get to me?
 
Most of my in-laws are really nice people who I get along with really well, but one of my sister in-laws is about the b****iest girl I have met in my entire life. She starts fights for no reason with everybody, she's super lazy and all she eats is junk food and she is constantly putting everyone down for how they look, dress whatever! I can't stand her, sometimes I want to slap her in the face, but of course I don't. Instead I ignore her annoying and rude comments until if I can't take it anymore I leave or just get into a seperate room. It's hard not to say everything I think about her sometimes, but I do my best to avoid her. Basically you just gotta tell yourself that thank god YOU aren't like that, I kind of feel sorry for her in a way because soon she's going to have nobody if she acts like this forever.
 
Oh boy do I have in law problems...

My MIL isn't exactly racist, but has said several times to her kids to only marry other Filipino's, I'm white. (also her husband IS white too! 2nd husband) One of the BIL's is always forever talking down on "Americans" (black,white brown..it don't matter) it infuriates me. I just want to scream at him that if he doesn't like us Americans or our culture or whatever to friggin leave!

And one of the things that really bothers me is the favoritism among the children. There are 19 grand kids all together, my husband and I have 3 kids. Well a couple years ago, everyone is at the MIL/ FIL's house. And it comes up that ALL of the grand kids got these beautiful knitted blankets from grandma. All of the kids Except for ours. Can you imagine the hurt on my kids faces when they learn they were the only ones excluded?! My FIL quick to see that told them to "go tell grandma their favorite colors so she can knit them each one". Well about a year later my youngest got hers, the 2 oldest haven't gotten one. (and won't now due to her health deteriorating)


I suggest in your case to just let it go, I try not to say anything to my husband. He has since realized that his family is like this. And it's such a huge family I don't want to start anything... I know how they talk about one of the exes. Oh yea they talk about everyone who isn't blood related! (and not there at the time) To be a fly on a wall when I'm not around.

I no longer really rant to my husband about his family, no sense in making him feel bad or cause hurt feelings. (he knows how they are) I write my frustrations with them down in a diary sometimes blog.

Every now and then I do let my opinion be known, and I do have the attitude to them that if they don't like it I really don't care. But normally I just listen to them praise their favorites and talk smack on whatever daughter/ son in law that isn't there at the time. At the end of the day it's not worth it for me to create some dramz.

Just take the high road, and when they start up when your around leave the room or house. Maybe eventually they will get the hint that you don't want to hear it.
 
Well Ryan I think that by not letting them have an effect on you and your husband's relationship or how you raise your children is probably the best thing you can do. Just do good in life and let them attack each other, they will kill each other off sooner or later :) Good luck!
 
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