Cari Mindanao
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A friend, someone I live with, noticed I have two Facebooks, and that the second one doesn't have lots of people on it yet. He took it upon himself to hunt down (using Bing and other search engines) some of the people he thought I wanted to add. He told me I should try it and then see for myself that they would not add me even if I tried to add them.
I told him, "You're probably right. My profile is not private and if they'd wanted me on their Facebook, they would have had me on it a long time ago coz mine is not hard to find, and they've known me a lot longer than they knew some of each other." (It's a specific group of people I see on a semi-regular basis.)
He tried to hug me and treat me as if I were totally crushed, so I pushed him away and told him I was going for a walk, which I did. It annoyed me that he seemed HURT about not getting a hug in for his attempt to hurt my feelings with reality.
I've already pretty well written off the idea of trying to be friends with anyone there now, coz I'm always good to them but they still are all into each other and just passingly nice to me, and told myself they will have to come to me so I don't look like a Stalker Stan or Loser Lisa or whatever stereotype it is when the odd one out keeps trying to be friends with people who just don't want to. He is not comfortable with that, and thinks it means I am going to kill myself soon, which is not the reason he should think that, I don't think. I think he should stop trying to depress me all the time.
I know this is long, shallow, pointless, but what do you think.
He goes out of his way to point out that up till recently, only one of the people in the group has ever called me, and that was to vent, which doesn't matter to me. I think that is cool (venting) and I don't appreciate him always trying to depress me.
I told him, "You're probably right. My profile is not private and if they'd wanted me on their Facebook, they would have had me on it a long time ago coz mine is not hard to find, and they've known me a lot longer than they knew some of each other." (It's a specific group of people I see on a semi-regular basis.)
He tried to hug me and treat me as if I were totally crushed, so I pushed him away and told him I was going for a walk, which I did. It annoyed me that he seemed HURT about not getting a hug in for his attempt to hurt my feelings with reality.
I've already pretty well written off the idea of trying to be friends with anyone there now, coz I'm always good to them but they still are all into each other and just passingly nice to me, and told myself they will have to come to me so I don't look like a Stalker Stan or Loser Lisa or whatever stereotype it is when the odd one out keeps trying to be friends with people who just don't want to. He is not comfortable with that, and thinks it means I am going to kill myself soon, which is not the reason he should think that, I don't think. I think he should stop trying to depress me all the time.
I know this is long, shallow, pointless, but what do you think.
He goes out of his way to point out that up till recently, only one of the people in the group has ever called me, and that was to vent, which doesn't matter to me. I think that is cool (venting) and I don't appreciate him always trying to depress me.