What am I supposed to say to my friend who always complains about not having a job?

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ash

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Every single time we talk, that's all she does. She's been looking for one for [seriously] like 4 years. She'll ask what I'm up to, and I'll say 'oh not much I just got off work' and she'll say 'oooooooh you're so lucky, I wish I could find a job..' and like.. what am I supposed to say to that? We haven't talked much in the last 5 years or so, but I still try to help her. I drove her to [she doesn't have a license] and walked around with her at an outside mall type place, and she got like 30 applications. Apparently none of them hired her. Every time I see that somewhere in her area is hiring, I let her know. I really don't know what to say or do, it's not like I can fill out her applications and go to her interviews and get her a job. But all she does is complain to me about it. Does anybody have any advice? I like her, so don't please don't tell me to just stop talking to her. I'm just not really sure what to say anymore.
Oooh, sorry that's kinda long lol I didn't notice.
 
Tell her straight up what you said here. Say, "Dude, I'm sorry you don't have a job and I'm doing what I can, but it's really making me uncomfortable. Can you tone it down a bit?" Or something along those lines. Truth always prevails even if it hurts.
 
It sounds like you are a great friend! And you've been really helpful so far. After all, only she can get a job for herself. Have you asked her what the biggest barrier is in finding a job? She is lucky to have you but you can only take so much and listen to so much. Try asking her to think of the 'real' problem in her way because it is probably not that she does not have a car. Maybe then she will be able to open up and as she hears herself talking, she may resolve the problem herself. Good Luck to you :)
 
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