Okay...this is a gross question. I apologize for this. But, as a mom I'm concerned and want to make sure my son is developing normally, and if this is premature, then should I take him to the doctor?
Okay...son is 13 years old and is 6'1 and wears a size 14 shoe.
His voice has already dropped, and one time when he was 9, I accidentally saw his penis (he squatted in front of me and his boxers were loose), and it was still a "little boy" penis.
Well, fast forward a few years, to 11, and he had to go to the bathroom badly and a man was in there and taking his sweet time, so I brought him into the women's room. I was standing with my back to the stall and in the mirror in front of me, through the crack in the stall (I had to lean on the door to keep it shut) I saw him wipe, and his penis was defintely "man sized".
Well, yesterday, they were out of school and he was on my bed watching my daughter play a computer game, and he rolled backward to get off the bed, but had to move his legs quickly to avoid rolling over our dog, and his shorts were loose and he wasn't wearing any underwear, but I noticed he already had hair on his testicles.
Is this normal for a 13 year old boy? To be "that" developed at that age? I thought you didn't get that developed until 20, 21-ish.
I am so embarrassed to have seen anyway (we adopted him at 9, so it's not like I'd ever seen it in bathing when he was a baby), but I just want to make sure I'm worrying over nothing.
In the past I had heard early developers were at higher risk of testicular cancer...should we have him checked and teach him how to check himself being he appears to already have his "manhood".
If so, how do I approach him with this without embarrassing the heck out of him that I've accidentally seen his privates?
Thanks!
Well, I just see it as an "invasion of privacy" considering he is not my birth child, to talk about his own size (we are VERY open about sex and the like, we've made sure of that being both he and his sister were sexually abused and that is part of the reason why they were removed from birth mom).
It would be different, IMO, had he been my biological child, and I had always seen his penis in bathing, etc.
But we had to teach the boundaries to them (they had NONE when they first moved in) and that's where I'm in a catch 22 and why I came here.
Okay...son is 13 years old and is 6'1 and wears a size 14 shoe.
His voice has already dropped, and one time when he was 9, I accidentally saw his penis (he squatted in front of me and his boxers were loose), and it was still a "little boy" penis.
Well, fast forward a few years, to 11, and he had to go to the bathroom badly and a man was in there and taking his sweet time, so I brought him into the women's room. I was standing with my back to the stall and in the mirror in front of me, through the crack in the stall (I had to lean on the door to keep it shut) I saw him wipe, and his penis was defintely "man sized".
Well, yesterday, they were out of school and he was on my bed watching my daughter play a computer game, and he rolled backward to get off the bed, but had to move his legs quickly to avoid rolling over our dog, and his shorts were loose and he wasn't wearing any underwear, but I noticed he already had hair on his testicles.
Is this normal for a 13 year old boy? To be "that" developed at that age? I thought you didn't get that developed until 20, 21-ish.
I am so embarrassed to have seen anyway (we adopted him at 9, so it's not like I'd ever seen it in bathing when he was a baby), but I just want to make sure I'm worrying over nothing.
In the past I had heard early developers were at higher risk of testicular cancer...should we have him checked and teach him how to check himself being he appears to already have his "manhood".
If so, how do I approach him with this without embarrassing the heck out of him that I've accidentally seen his privates?
Thanks!
Well, I just see it as an "invasion of privacy" considering he is not my birth child, to talk about his own size (we are VERY open about sex and the like, we've made sure of that being both he and his sister were sexually abused and that is part of the reason why they were removed from birth mom).
It would be different, IMO, had he been my biological child, and I had always seen his penis in bathing, etc.
But we had to teach the boundaries to them (they had NONE when they first moved in) and that's where I'm in a catch 22 and why I came here.