Weird unhealthy friendship?

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Kate

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Im only young -16 years old. And i have a best friend who i really care about and she is absolutely obsessed and dependant on her boyfriend and has been for like 2 years. she cant go out with friends without his permission and his totally wrong, so she cant hang out with me and he doesn't like me anyway so its harder to spend time with my best friend because she is always with him and so dependant. i just confronted her then i told her how i felt like she should try and balance and how it makes me feel sad because i care and i want the best for her and have freedom. And she told me it makes her feel awkward when i talk about that stuff and she shouldn't have to feel guilty for her relationship, so i feel like its my fault. this is so messed up shes angry with me for talking about that and she doesn't care how i feel at all. im thinking of just ending the friendship which will be hard and maybe when she moves on we can be friends again, i know that shes a really great girl and shes really strong but when it comes to her boyfriend shes very dependant and she says i shouldn't judge her for that. Can you please help me?
yeh i know that im jelous...
 
okay, well you need to spy on them and make a plan to break their relationship up.
get one of your cousin or something and pay her to kiss him and then your best friend will she and be like 'omfg'
or you can just slowly sabotage it.
your choice.
but it sounds liek you really care about your friend even though she is a selfish and dependant biotch.
he sounds like a pretty big dickwang as well.
 
tell her how you feel, and if she is acting up like that she dont deserve a good mate such as yourself, find some one else who will actually care about friendship-and when she loses her boy friend then she will see what mistakes she has made.
 
There is an old saying: Love comes and goes but friendship stays.
Don't worry,she and her boyfriend may will break up some day.It's very likely to happen because they are both young. They are too young to realize what love is.By the way,are you a boy or a girl? If you're a boy,no wonder her boyfriend dislike you. Who wants a boy to follow his girlfriend all the time? My advice is that let her go,if they break up one day,she will go back to you.
 
ditch her, she would rather her boyfriends over you.
isnt that very sad?
you also seem jelous
 
OK so you've already tried talking to her (which was an extremely smart move by the way) and she wont listen but makes you feel guilty instead? Well if I were in your situation (which I was in just a month ago) you need to try talking to her one last time and if she does the same thing again, tell her that you think her boyfriend is an important part of her life but friends are too just like family. Let her know that boys will come and go till you find the right one but friends and family are forever.....and nothing, no matter how much in denial she is in, will change that.

Then if she still cares more about her boyfriend than she does about you, I think you need to keep away. Someone who feels that way will realize soon enough that a relationship can break a heart as easily as that heart can fall in love.....so once her heart gets broken, she'll realize all her friends would have abandoned her because she didnt care enough for them. She'll learn the hard way because of the wrong choice she is making....

I hope things get better for you but remember, if she doesn't care, you have to move on however tough it is.....time heals everything....maybe even this friendship.....just give it time to come back to life....
 
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