...can I develop a friendship? So, I've known this guy since year 7, and we have just started year 12 and are both turning 18 in the next few months. Anyway, we have the same group of close friends and we have always been the only one in the group who didn't get along. We have conflicting opinions about everything and would always argue and be pretty mean to each other, often for no good reason.
Now, from about a year ago, we started learning to be nicer to each other. We get along much better now and usually have friendly conversations, but we still do argue sometimes, though rarely enough, and it's pretty awkward between us, especially outside of a group situation. Not only is there that past tension, we don't have heaps in common and I never know what to say to him.
For around a year, I've realised I really like him as more than a friend. However, I realise that that wouldn't happen the way we are now and I don't want to risk our 'friendship'. What I really want right now is to get closer to him as a friend. The thing is, I am really having trouble working out how. Sometimes he seems really friendly to me, but sometimes he seems pretty mean again, as though he hasn't completely gotten used to being nice to me (however where we used to be pretty horrible to each other, when this happens now it seems a bit lighter and more joking most of the time). He IS a nice guy, I know that, and I am not a bad person either, we just have never gotten along so I guess it's hard for us to. If I go and sit near him or do anything that seems too nice, he gives me a pointed 'what are you doing' look or it just seems awkward again, even if we were getting on comfortably the moment before.
I would REALLY appreciate any advice on how to develop a friendship with him. He is good friends with most of my closest friends, and he stills hangs around in our group more often than not. Any advice? How do I ease the tension and make it less awkward? What can I do that can lead to us being friends?
Thank you very much!
Now, from about a year ago, we started learning to be nicer to each other. We get along much better now and usually have friendly conversations, but we still do argue sometimes, though rarely enough, and it's pretty awkward between us, especially outside of a group situation. Not only is there that past tension, we don't have heaps in common and I never know what to say to him.
For around a year, I've realised I really like him as more than a friend. However, I realise that that wouldn't happen the way we are now and I don't want to risk our 'friendship'. What I really want right now is to get closer to him as a friend. The thing is, I am really having trouble working out how. Sometimes he seems really friendly to me, but sometimes he seems pretty mean again, as though he hasn't completely gotten used to being nice to me (however where we used to be pretty horrible to each other, when this happens now it seems a bit lighter and more joking most of the time). He IS a nice guy, I know that, and I am not a bad person either, we just have never gotten along so I guess it's hard for us to. If I go and sit near him or do anything that seems too nice, he gives me a pointed 'what are you doing' look or it just seems awkward again, even if we were getting on comfortably the moment before.
I would REALLY appreciate any advice on how to develop a friendship with him. He is good friends with most of my closest friends, and he stills hangs around in our group more often than not. Any advice? How do I ease the tension and make it less awkward? What can I do that can lead to us being friends?
Thank you very much!