The United States helped the Mujaheddin for their own interest to curtail Communist, not out of love and respect for the Afghans or the Islamic culture. After the Afghan war was over the Unites States wanted to pull out of Afghanistan so the CIA created the Taliban regime and handed over the power to them to prevent any unrest in the country and to control the several warlords that controlled their respective areas.
Osama Bin Ladin was a CIA operative who helped Americans distribute funds and ammunition to the different people and tribes in Afghanistan.
Then somewhere in the mid 90s the US felt the need to have some presence in Asia from where they could control the whole region and Afghanistan was the softest target available to do that so from that point on they labeled Bin Ladin as a terrorist and designed the whole 9/11 to implicate him in it and to find an excuse to attack poor and starving people of Afghanistan who did not stand any chance agianst the US invading forces.
Finally to answer your question, How could anyone love you if you have invaded their country, occupying it, and have killed innocent people including women and children. If you want to be loved and respected by them, leave their country to their people. The Taliban regime would not be feasible anywhere else but it worked for them.