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Karnak
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...want us to wait six weeks.? We need some resolution now. Our Son and DIL are actually moving 1000 miles closer to us and now they want nothing to do with us. This job transfer closer to us should make us the happiest parents on earth. They will be a three hour drive away. We have no idea what the problem is. We did have some issues at Christmas 2007 but that appeared to be resolved. We have had several visits since. My son asked us to wait until after they move so that we can start over again. We can visit 3 weeks after they and the two boys are "settled in with a routine". Apparently we are not allowed to enjoy all that goes with building a new home, and help in any way with moving in. Our family and friends here cannot understand this. We have been nothing but helpful to them since they were married. I want to fly to their place asap to deal with this. My wife wants to keep our distance for fear we may never see them again. It has been suggested that they may be dealing with marital problems of their own. We did get along with our DIL. She did throw a couple of hissy fits when we have visited but it had nothing to do with us. We miss our grandsons. We haven't even Skyped with them for a long time. Her parents and friends get to drop in. Why can't we ? My Son seems like he is caught in a tough situation. If he thinks he is in a difficult sitation now, how will he feel if his parents break up over this or consider suicide ? My wife got some stronger drugs from our GP and so trys to sleep most of the day. I can't take this much longer. At my age 61, I need to find some peace and routine in my own life. Should we try to carry on for six weeks or go there now and seek resolution ?
This may be hard to believe, but 30 seconds after I pressed the send button, my Son phoned. He made us feel better, he said it was not us, its the pressure on their end. She is moving 1000 miles away from her family and with a new baby and all the stress is great. Her family does not have the resources to visit as often and this is beginning to sink in a bit. He said that we should be able to get a normal relationship. I floated the idea that maybe we might visit on a roughly six week basis, and he thought that sounded reasonable. I floated the idea that if they were to go on vacation would it be likely that they might ask us to stay with the kids. He said that any vacations they take in the near future probably would involve the whole family going back east or down to Disney World and such. But it would be possible that when they get to the point where they need us to stay with the kids for a week or so that there should be no reason why not. I will now read your responces carefully.
This may be hard to believe, but 30 seconds after I pressed the send button, my Son phoned. He made us feel better, he said it was not us, its the pressure on their end. She is moving 1000 miles away from her family and with a new baby and all the stress is great. Her family does not have the resources to visit as often and this is beginning to sink in a bit. He said that we should be able to get a normal relationship. I floated the idea that maybe we might visit on a roughly six week basis, and he thought that sounded reasonable. I floated the idea that if they were to go on vacation would it be likely that they might ask us to stay with the kids. He said that any vacations they take in the near future probably would involve the whole family going back east or down to Disney World and such. But it would be possible that when they get to the point where they need us to stay with the kids for a week or so that there should be no reason why not. I will now read your responces carefully.