Dragonfly23
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finished discussing it with me? ? My fiance owed a lot of money to someone, and it was supposed to be paid in April, and we were going to start looking for a place together in May. I've been helping him pay this debt for two years. It is a ridiculous amount of money. He was making weekly payments, and I would give him a few thousand once a month when I get paid. It was all worked out to the exact date it would be paid off.
Well, my fiance hasn't been working much lately because of lack of work with his company, so he couldn't afford his weekly payments. He told me we needed to discuss an offer the guy gave him. Rather than make his weekly payments anymore, he would just tack an extra 10g to the balance. I said absolutely not. He said he would let him know I didn't agree to it.
Last night I mentioned it, and he said he had already told the guy yes. I felt sick.
That would mean we wouldn't move in together until next May, because even though it wouldn't take that long to pay it, it would still mean he would have to make his daughters change schools in the middle of the year, which I don't want. He says he will have them change and it won't be a problem, but I know that's not true.
His telling me he had made that decision without me makes me doubt our entire relationship.
He won't be making weekly payments, so it will all be on me.
He is mad AT ME and says he doesn't want to hear about it.
I said he just completely changed my/our LIFE PLAN.
Am I wrong to be upset? I know it's dumb that I've paid off like $70g of his overall debt, but I just wanted to help him.
I don't want to pay another $10g. It's not fair.
Well, my fiance hasn't been working much lately because of lack of work with his company, so he couldn't afford his weekly payments. He told me we needed to discuss an offer the guy gave him. Rather than make his weekly payments anymore, he would just tack an extra 10g to the balance. I said absolutely not. He said he would let him know I didn't agree to it.
Last night I mentioned it, and he said he had already told the guy yes. I felt sick.
That would mean we wouldn't move in together until next May, because even though it wouldn't take that long to pay it, it would still mean he would have to make his daughters change schools in the middle of the year, which I don't want. He says he will have them change and it won't be a problem, but I know that's not true.
His telling me he had made that decision without me makes me doubt our entire relationship.
He won't be making weekly payments, so it will all be on me.
He is mad AT ME and says he doesn't want to hear about it.
I said he just completely changed my/our LIFE PLAN.
Am I wrong to be upset? I know it's dumb that I've paid off like $70g of his overall debt, but I just wanted to help him.
I don't want to pay another $10g. It's not fair.