Was I wrong for now washing her car?

[Derrick]

Me and my fiance have this issue that has always been in our almost 7 year relationship. When I was my car and don't wash hers. Her thing is that when I wash mine I'm "suppose" to wash hers because that's just what guys do for their women. We have been living together almost the whole time we have been dating and this argument just won't go away. Most of the time when I do wash mine I will wash hers but not all the time. That's what she gets angry about. Yes I spend a lot of time on my car when I do wash it, I'm a guy, sue me. Today I got up, cleaned the kitchen, washed the dishes and even cooked her some breakfast. But the minute she saw me getting my stuff together to go wash my car she asked if I was gonna wash hers. I said no. Get got angry talking about all the things she does around the house for me and how I can't just do this one thing for her. According to her it's always just one thing. Last time I washed my car I washed hers. That was about 2 weeks ago. Since then she took her car to Autobell and let them wash it. Did she volunteer to take mine to Autobell? No. Was I angry? No. But the minute I mentioned that to her that was just more fuel on her fire. She argued with me for about 20 minutes. Even to the point to where she was actually crying about it. I didn't say one word because I wasn't about to get into it with her over a car wash. That pissed her off more that I wasn't responding. I eventually just put all the stuff back up and my car will stay dirty a little while longer. Was I wrong for not wanting to wash her car this time? Are men suppose to do everything for a woman when ever they do something for themselves? But just the other day she told me that lately she just doesn't want to have sex right now but I'm still suppose to do things for her. Come on. Am I wrong? I've asked her to come out and help me wash the cars together and she doesn't want to get her hands wet or her nails messed up. "That's a man's job." Yeah, but I do most of the cooking in the house. Isn't that a woman's job? She knows I hate when she takes her car to Autobell because that's money she could still have in her pocket and just take the time to wash her car herself at home. She asked me if I was gonna wash her car and I simply said no. Does that require a lengthy explanation? That doesn't mean I'm never gonna wash her car again, just not this time.