Was I rude to ask my nephew to remove his hat in a Chinese restaurant?

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Well, his dad either didn't want to make a scene or agreed with you. Does the boy really not have any manners? Maybe his mom was just embarrassed that you caught something that she herself should have thought of and told him to do - she felt like you caught her slacking or not being good at her job. Either way, the boy's dad agreed with you, so I think it's okay.
On the other hand, it's really not good form to parent other people's children, especially when the parents are present. Had you been taking him to work with you and you asked him to take his hat off, then whatever you say goes. However, if his parents were going to allow him to wear a hat at the table, it wasn't your place to undermine them.
 
We had a family dinner recently at a Chinese restaurant. It wasn't a fancy shmancy restaurant, but it wasn't like fast food either. My 22 year old nephew had his ball cap on at the table. I jokingly asked him if he had a head of under that hat. He lifted his hat up to show me his hair. My nephew's Dad was sitting across from him and said. "That's a hint to take your hat off at the table." My nephew then removed his hat. My nephew's Mom (who is my sister) acted really embarrassed that I hinted that he should have his hat off at the table. I think she took it as an insult to the way she raised her son without manners. Was I wrong to say something about the hat? I don't have children myself, but I just think it is rude to wear a hat at a dinner table.
 
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