Serene Dove
New member
Hi!
my friends i feel dont understand me when i state my wishes and desires, and are unable to extend help.
like there is this online friend, who i thoought was caring , but i feel over the time he is agitated with me for not being considerate to him. the reason why i am not so considerate is that i feel he is single and thus wants to know me intimately and since i cant be his girlfriend nor am interested in marrying him i avoid discussing topics that could reveal that side of me. which i want to reserve for the man i love.
but i feel when ever i open up abt my desires and wishes, or anything that i feel deeply abt he gets very uncomfortable and cranky.
and thus i have stopped talking to him. but i so want someone to listen to me and help me where they can without having conditions, or wanting me to act and be in a certain way.
i feel them to be jealous of me, or they juts dont want me to have wat i want. or may be i am juts too worried of being judged and misunderstood.
how can i ensure to make friends who are firends indeeed and be the same.
like i know if you would want to do something which i feel is wrong... like for example.. if i feel u are going online for pornification... i will not approve of it and infact discourage u and nor feel good around u, cuz i feel its wrong... but if u wud ask me to help with things that matter ill do all i can... isnt that kind of freindship enuf these days. why wud ppl want friends who can think bad to be good and good to be bad. and how can we make friends who beleive in same things, so that we have more in common then different.
i never had close friends... reason being my interests never matched theirs and theirs never mine. and i felt always tongue tied. and never cud enjoy wat they did, nor they cud enjoy wat i love.
my friends i feel dont understand me when i state my wishes and desires, and are unable to extend help.
like there is this online friend, who i thoought was caring , but i feel over the time he is agitated with me for not being considerate to him. the reason why i am not so considerate is that i feel he is single and thus wants to know me intimately and since i cant be his girlfriend nor am interested in marrying him i avoid discussing topics that could reveal that side of me. which i want to reserve for the man i love.
but i feel when ever i open up abt my desires and wishes, or anything that i feel deeply abt he gets very uncomfortable and cranky.
and thus i have stopped talking to him. but i so want someone to listen to me and help me where they can without having conditions, or wanting me to act and be in a certain way.
i feel them to be jealous of me, or they juts dont want me to have wat i want. or may be i am juts too worried of being judged and misunderstood.
how can i ensure to make friends who are firends indeeed and be the same.
like i know if you would want to do something which i feel is wrong... like for example.. if i feel u are going online for pornification... i will not approve of it and infact discourage u and nor feel good around u, cuz i feel its wrong... but if u wud ask me to help with things that matter ill do all i can... isnt that kind of freindship enuf these days. why wud ppl want friends who can think bad to be good and good to be bad. and how can we make friends who beleive in same things, so that we have more in common then different.
i never had close friends... reason being my interests never matched theirs and theirs never mine. and i felt always tongue tied. and never cud enjoy wat they did, nor they cud enjoy wat i love.