Video games and marriage?

[Epona]

my husband has started to spend lots more time on the computer playing a few games and guitar hero. i often have to remind him to do his homework for classes, chores, i even had to register him for his classes or he would not have been able to graduate next semester. he has always been a gamer, but over the last year he has begun to play much more. he gets home at 4:45 and plays until 2a.m. easy and if her gets bored he just pick up another game. He plays wow, day of defeat, moon-gate, battle field, and guitar hero. he has weekends off and they are dedicated to gaming no matter what. I have attempted to discuss it, but he gets angry and i feel like a nag. i hate feeling that way. i hate talking to him just to find out that for the last 10 minutes he has been raiding and has totally missed everything i said. plus we roommate with his friend who is the same way as my husband. he often interjects on our conversations and makes me feel like i am being ganged up on.

I would hate to say that I am jealous of the games. am i being to harsh? he says he cannot be my source of entertainment and that i need to find things to do for myself. i do things. i have a horse i ride and i go to the movies "alone because he will not go" but i go anyways. i play games at my family's house on game night. i just want to include him.

should i just do my own thing and learn to deal and find happiness in my life that does not include my husband?
and i have tried to play these games and include myself in his interests, but he gets frustrated when i have played because i am not as dedicated to the games and just plain suck at guitar hero. but i tired.

 

[Smiley]

I will say you need to stop being his mother, and doing all his necessary stuff. Then when he chooses games over priorities in life, you lay into him about what needs to happen, or what's about to happen with you as he builds on your nerve.

Then to think you have a buddy living in your happy home. I can see how this makes good economic sense, but this single fellow is going drive your husband down the path of darkness, keeping him gaming like a couple of 13 year olds.

When the friend butts in, you need to drag your husband into a separate room and tell him how it needs to be, and reinforce you do not mind spirited debates, but you nor him should find reasons not to take care of business, less of course you intend to live just like you are, in this same set up, for the rest of your life.

If your husband will not drop the gaming to take care of business, that includes work, school, and even you, that is bordering on an addiction, and those destroy everything eventually. He needs to get his head screwed in before he really screws up.