circumstances. Advice please? To most of my friends, I'm out. One of the closest ones however still doesn't know. He's not my best friend, but he's up there.
3 things.
1) We didn't start getting REALLY close til last August. And have both gone off to college since. We're EXTREMELY good friends now, but we don't have years of friendship to fall back on if he has an issue with my sexuality.
2) His religion is everything to him. Through another friend, I've discovered his overall view of homosexuality, and that's that being gay is absolutely not a choice, it's who you are, but engaging in homosexual activity is 'a sin'.. not a completely unforgivable one, but still essentially wrong. He's basically one of those "I'm totally okay with you being gay, just don't BE gay" types...
3) He's extremely physical with me. We've wrestled many times. Even tonight he spent most of the night with his legs across my lap. He hugs a lot. He puts his arms around my shoulders a lot. He does nothing for me sexually... at all... but if he knows I'm gay... don't all of those interactions suddenly look like turn ons for me to him? Causing him to change how he acts around me....
He's one of my favorite people ever. He's awesome. I love the dynamic we have now, and I really really don't want to lose it. As of now, we have insane amounts of plans for winter/summer break... But I feel so guilty.. still lying to him. 3 months after I stopped lying to everyone else. is there an approach I can take? Should I even tell him? Thoughts?
3 things.
1) We didn't start getting REALLY close til last August. And have both gone off to college since. We're EXTREMELY good friends now, but we don't have years of friendship to fall back on if he has an issue with my sexuality.
2) His religion is everything to him. Through another friend, I've discovered his overall view of homosexuality, and that's that being gay is absolutely not a choice, it's who you are, but engaging in homosexual activity is 'a sin'.. not a completely unforgivable one, but still essentially wrong. He's basically one of those "I'm totally okay with you being gay, just don't BE gay" types...
3) He's extremely physical with me. We've wrestled many times. Even tonight he spent most of the night with his legs across my lap. He hugs a lot. He puts his arms around my shoulders a lot. He does nothing for me sexually... at all... but if he knows I'm gay... don't all of those interactions suddenly look like turn ons for me to him? Causing him to change how he acts around me....
He's one of my favorite people ever. He's awesome. I love the dynamic we have now, and I really really don't want to lose it. As of now, we have insane amounts of plans for winter/summer break... But I feel so guilty.. still lying to him. 3 months after I stopped lying to everyone else. is there an approach I can take? Should I even tell him? Thoughts?