Ok i'll try to be as brief as possible, I separated from my husband and he is now going for custody on the grounds of my mental health ( I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder I have had 2 bad episodes in my life fine all other times) I have had to have an assessment with a psychologist to see that im ok ( which I am) which lasted for 6 hours. During this time I told her everything except abuse I suffered in early childhood not thinking it really relevant, she figured out I was hiding something and called the meeting to an end until I was able to tell her about it.
Now the problem is it all coming out noone knows and its all going to come out in court if I talk, i'm going to have to tell my mum what happened which is awful because it was my brother that abused me, I am over it he was young and not really all there, we actually have an ok relationship, but I never told at the time cos I was worried that she would take his side because i'm adopted ( stupid I know!) and then there didn't seem any relevance.
I am so worried about telling my mum shes going to be shattered we have been through so much as a family over the last 2 years I dont know that she could cope with another blow, I know I have too because its better coming from me than the court I just don't know how.
I'm also worried what to say to the psychologist i'm seeing her again in a few days to discuss this and keep thinking I should lie about who the abuse came from because I worry that if she knew who it was it would put my case in jeopardy because we are all close as a family and worry they'll see my brother as a threat which he is most defiantly not, he has 2 children of his own and if I thought there was any possible danger I would be the first one to stand up and say something.
I fear telling the whole truth could destroy everything I have and I dont want to risk losing my daughter. I love my family and the last thing I want to do is cause all this upset.
What do I do?
Now the problem is it all coming out noone knows and its all going to come out in court if I talk, i'm going to have to tell my mum what happened which is awful because it was my brother that abused me, I am over it he was young and not really all there, we actually have an ok relationship, but I never told at the time cos I was worried that she would take his side because i'm adopted ( stupid I know!) and then there didn't seem any relevance.
I am so worried about telling my mum shes going to be shattered we have been through so much as a family over the last 2 years I dont know that she could cope with another blow, I know I have too because its better coming from me than the court I just don't know how.
I'm also worried what to say to the psychologist i'm seeing her again in a few days to discuss this and keep thinking I should lie about who the abuse came from because I worry that if she knew who it was it would put my case in jeopardy because we are all close as a family and worry they'll see my brother as a threat which he is most defiantly not, he has 2 children of his own and if I thought there was any possible danger I would be the first one to stand up and say something.
I fear telling the whole truth could destroy everything I have and I dont want to risk losing my daughter. I love my family and the last thing I want to do is cause all this upset.
What do I do?