I play an online MMRPG game. In the last few weeks. I have been chatting with another player. We seem to have a lot in common. *note I have never chatted with someone to this extent* personal info etc. He told me that he was unhappily married. That his wife had a few affairs and that all love is gone. He also has 3 kids. (9,14,18) At first I felt bad for the guy. Tried to reassure him that things would get better with time.. (I'm too overly nice at times) I told him what a wonderful person he was etc. He then started saying things like "I wish my wife would appreciate me like you do". Then on one of his messages he said "I love you". He also said that he was falling for me that I was his "soul mate". It kinda felt nice to hear that from someone as I have been single for a long time, never married and don't have any children. I'll admit I played into it. I felt liked and admired. It was nice to get this attention from a man.
Tonight he rambled on for an hour straight about how much he has tried to make things work with
her that she had all these affairs because he was addicted to online gaming in the past. I explained that having an affair is just flat out wrong and that his wife needs to earn his trust back. I'm now feeling like a shrink or a marriage councilor.. Then he says "well I guess I deserve this this is my life. I asked him why he doesn"t change it. (why do ppl stay unhappily married?) He claims that he is in love With me.
This all seems to be happening too fast, I question what his marriage life is really about.. I told him that only he knows what needs to be done. That his heart will guide him. Oh yes and now he says that he thinks that the marriage is getting a little better. But now he isn't sure of anything cause he loves me , I'm feeling like I'm getting tangled in his webs of confusion.
I have a lot of mixed emotions here or so it seems. I don't know why he seems to talk about her so much .
If this situation was reversed I would leave my wife and get myself a new life. He doesn't seem to see this as an option? And now i'm coming to the conclusion that maybe this was the ultimate plan to get me so involved in his mess.
I enjoyed talking to him in the game. Now things seem a little out of control. I don't know. Maybe he is just creeping me out a bit. he is moving a little fast for me. I'm willing to be his friend but things are going overboard. Anyone know what I should do here... I don't want to hear about his wife anymore as it makes my blood boil. Ideas? Please?
Yes I like him but am I in love with him No..
Tonight he rambled on for an hour straight about how much he has tried to make things work with
her that she had all these affairs because he was addicted to online gaming in the past. I explained that having an affair is just flat out wrong and that his wife needs to earn his trust back. I'm now feeling like a shrink or a marriage councilor.. Then he says "well I guess I deserve this this is my life. I asked him why he doesn"t change it. (why do ppl stay unhappily married?) He claims that he is in love With me.
This all seems to be happening too fast, I question what his marriage life is really about.. I told him that only he knows what needs to be done. That his heart will guide him. Oh yes and now he says that he thinks that the marriage is getting a little better. But now he isn't sure of anything cause he loves me , I'm feeling like I'm getting tangled in his webs of confusion.
I have a lot of mixed emotions here or so it seems. I don't know why he seems to talk about her so much .
If this situation was reversed I would leave my wife and get myself a new life. He doesn't seem to see this as an option? And now i'm coming to the conclusion that maybe this was the ultimate plan to get me so involved in his mess.
I enjoyed talking to him in the game. Now things seem a little out of control. I don't know. Maybe he is just creeping me out a bit. he is moving a little fast for me. I'm willing to be his friend but things are going overboard. Anyone know what I should do here... I don't want to hear about his wife anymore as it makes my blood boil. Ideas? Please?
Yes I like him but am I in love with him No..