I recently gotten in touch with an old friend. This friend was back during high school, and we hung out for 3 or 4 years during the summers. We were both with someone at the time though. Anyways, we came across each other again after losing touch for 12 years. We began talking as friends and found we had a lot in common. We both confessed that we were interested in the other way back when but unable to do anything about it.
We have seen each other maybe 4 times now, talk on the phone daily, or have some form of contact (email, etc) We are also intimate. From cuddling to sex. I asked where we were in our relationship because of some comments she made about being really good friends. (She has also stated she doesn't to the FWB, thing) She answered 'friends'. I told her I felt we should be gf/bf because of what we had been doing, and he statements. She said she didn't think we were that far yet. Another conversation, she made the comment about not sleeping with anyone else out of respect for the other. I had already been doing that but agreed. She also makes comments such as that she doesn't know me, and is really busy to give me a relationship relationship.
(SIDENOTE: When I told her we should hold off on sex, until in a serious relationship.. it seemed she delayed coming over until I mentioned us fooling around when she came over)
Last night, she asked me out of the blue if I had AIDS. Then played it off as she was joking. (I don't btw). It seems to me that she is just using me for sex and the stress relief from her life, and that she has no intention of wanting more.
When I ask if she likes coming over, I get answer such as "I am here, ain't I?" or "I came over, didn't I?" Seems kinda odd.
I really do like this girl, and despite the lack of verbal confirming relationship, he actions say she is really into me and makes me feel wanted. Am I blinded by my feelings for her to see her using me? Should I tell her to commit or lose me?
BTW, she hasn't asked for money, for me to buy her anything and refuses to do anything really expensive.
We have seen each other maybe 4 times now, talk on the phone daily, or have some form of contact (email, etc) We are also intimate. From cuddling to sex. I asked where we were in our relationship because of some comments she made about being really good friends. (She has also stated she doesn't to the FWB, thing) She answered 'friends'. I told her I felt we should be gf/bf because of what we had been doing, and he statements. She said she didn't think we were that far yet. Another conversation, she made the comment about not sleeping with anyone else out of respect for the other. I had already been doing that but agreed. She also makes comments such as that she doesn't know me, and is really busy to give me a relationship relationship.
(SIDENOTE: When I told her we should hold off on sex, until in a serious relationship.. it seemed she delayed coming over until I mentioned us fooling around when she came over)
Last night, she asked me out of the blue if I had AIDS. Then played it off as she was joking. (I don't btw). It seems to me that she is just using me for sex and the stress relief from her life, and that she has no intention of wanting more.
When I ask if she likes coming over, I get answer such as "I am here, ain't I?" or "I came over, didn't I?" Seems kinda odd.
I really do like this girl, and despite the lack of verbal confirming relationship, he actions say she is really into me and makes me feel wanted. Am I blinded by my feelings for her to see her using me? Should I tell her to commit or lose me?
BTW, she hasn't asked for money, for me to buy her anything and refuses to do anything really expensive.