To my boyfriend, our relationship DEPENDS on our sex life. Help?

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I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I want him to be happy no matter what (obviously), but if for any reason I don't want to have sex (still on my period, or even just not in the mood), he tells me that I'm "being a bitch" and that it's like "I don't wanna please 'my man'".

I'm not a huge fan of sex, let's be honest. He is a bit larger than average, and it hurts me sometimes to the point where I'm still in a bit of pain for most of the day. Also, I don't really feel as much pleasure from it as anyone else would (or so I have come to believe, I could be wrong).

I do want to please him, and I want to make him happy, and I DO love him...
But when he says I'm being a bitch just for not wanting to have sex... Is that right???

Why isn't my love good enough for him?
Is it like this with every guy? They just can't live without it???

Does a whole relationship depend on how often you have sex??

And one more question, why does he become this black and white brick wall right after I tell him I'm not in the mood? We can be the happiest people in the world, and if I don't want to have sex, he just goes blank, completely void of emotion (except depression, so he claims).

I just want to fix my relationship... Someone please give me some advice >_<

 

[~Tabitha~ :)]

wow you're boyfriend shouldn't be mean like that. I say deprive him from sex atleast for a week and see what his actions are and how he treats you. If he treats you bad then he's not worth being with. Sex is making love and showing passion its not all about the feeling and how good it feels. He needs to learn to respect your feelings.