this is a weird situation. . .?

[aurora<3]

okay, so i have a really good friend named tiffany. shes very pretty, but she has big hips, &short legs. about a month ago, she went to the beach with my family and i. my little brother usually doesn't say rude thing about my friends, but when we got home, he was saying mean things about her big hips and larger body. me&tiffany are the same height, 5 feet, 6 inches. my body size is about average, its nothing to brag about. but he was making fun of her, calling her gross and other things... saying im skinnier and better looking than her. it hurts my feelings that he would say something like that about my friends, because i dont say anything about his. just recently, i stayed the night at her house, and when i woke up in the morning, we were sitting on her bed watching Grand Torino, and she brings up the subject of her legs. she said that she had long slender legs, and that she can "rock" a pair of shorts. i then told her that my legs are long compared to hers, and she got mad at me. i feel like i have turned against her because of our different bodies, and all the crap my little brother was saying. its awkward when were hanging out with our group of friends, and everybody can talk about a guy but her, because she doesnt have a guy-friend to talk to, or go out with. and she gets mad at me about it. i want her to stop getting mad a t me about her guy problems... & i want my little brother to stop saying things about her. what do i do? :/

 

[Jade]

Her body is a sensitive subject for her, and tell your brother to shut up about your friends. And the sleep over incident really hurt her feelings, she was getting her self esteem up, and you just crashed it. Even jokes like that are very hurtfull.

 

[Norma k]

First you do not say how old is your brother so depending on his age you can explain that everybody is different and he should respect that point him out his defects and tell him that even though he has them, nobody is making fun of him. Second you do not mention if you apologized for your brother's behavior, so, if you didn't you should; then, make sure you reassure your friendship and point out her virtues and why she is your friend. Tell her that she do not have to kiss lots a toads to find his prince. The right guy would not care what kind of imperfections but the virtues she posses.

 

[mad2011]

tell your little bro to stop because if he doesnt stop then youll start making fun of his nerdy little friends and tell her your just being honest with her and you dont want anything to happen to your relationship. and instead of bagging on her about her guy prob then help her with it. try to help her with guys