this girl i was seeing had sex with another guy, am i being to hard on myself?

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sa b

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me and this girl have been off and on for a few months. i told her that i didnt want a relationship and that we should end it. for a week after we talked a lot and it was hard to really end it. then one day i made her cry and she said she was going to see her ex. then the next day she told me that she saw him and he took advantage of her and he took her virginity also. i feel so bad for her but at the same time i feel very sad thinking that she went so quickly and had sex with this guy after all that we had been through. i told her im not mad at her but i dont want to talk to her anymore because it hurts to think about what she did. now she is crying, i feel so bad because i still care for her and i dont want her to feel like she is bad. now i feel like shit. am i being to hard on myselff?
lol damn you jessica! but thanks seriously
i am 21 and i am a virgin
 
Your being to hard on yourself. That's called tough love. She's dumb to go to her ex and end up having sex. You shouldn't feel bad at all because the truth hurts. You also shouldn't feel bad because she blew it out of proportion by sleeping with her ex. Screw her (trying to be honest). She wasn't professional about it, and the whole thing itself is stupid!
 
Wow. This is alot to be dealing with.. But first let me ask u.. Are u a virgin too? Is that why it bugs u so much. Because if not you can def move past this. I understand where u are coming from. But you were giving her all the wrong signs. What was she suppose to do. I understand we all say things we dont mean. But u cant be mad at her. All she wants is to be loved. And it sounds like more by u then anyone. So when u rejected her, she probably felt worthless. So ran to the first person that could just show her shes worth something. But once again she feels like crap cause shes right back where she started. Im not sure how old u are. But apparently if u are this bugged about all of this you still really care about her. Why are u gonna walk away from a good thing. She loves you. Thats hard to come across. You may wanna convince ur self u would prefer to be alone right now. But ur lying to ur self cause u are tore up about all of this. Give her and u a chance. Do turn a good thing away when its staring u right in the face. Good luck... Oh.. by the way, I met my husband at 13. We have been together 9 yrs now. Neither one of us have ever been with anyone else. We were each others first. My point being .. You are never too young to find ur soul mate. That may be a huge step for u. Or not what ur looking for. But it would be horrible if u walked away from this never knowing.
 
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