...be intimate.? I'm recently separated. I've been seeing an old high school interest. She initially presented herself as someone who would most definitely be interested in having relations. She told me up front that she was dating other guys also. I was ok with that, since I wasn't exactly sure what I was looking for. We both have children, and had met up three or four times on both kid-friendly events, as well as dates just by ourselves. We have not had intercourse, but have fooled around a little bit. Lots of kissing, hugging, and some other things. She's a cutie, and I think there is chemistry. I think she feels the same way too when we are together.Recently I expressed that I was interested in more than just casual dating.
Earlier today, she texts me saying that she is not sure if she can do "this". I take it to mean start a relationship, and/or go further with intimacy. She tells me the reason is that she has feelings for someone else that's she's also currently dating. She admitted that he probably wasn't the best guy but that it's been difficult to break it off with him. I played it nonchalantly, and basically told her that I understood and thanked her for being up front. I was ready to let her go, and believed that would be the end of it.
This evening, she texts me that she's sorry, again. I replied, "no biggie. I enjoyed the time we spent together and good luck finding your happiness." Her reply was that she still wants to spend time with me but feels pressured to be intimate even though that's the way she presented herself at the beginning. To me, it's kind of the same thing as "Just want to be friends".
It feels like a trap, and I won't be caught. She is throwing me a glimmer of hope. Common sense says to bail. Any suggestions? I haven't responded yet, but I think I'm going to say something like, "No, that's not going to work for me but thanks anyway" or something like that.
Earlier today, she texts me saying that she is not sure if she can do "this". I take it to mean start a relationship, and/or go further with intimacy. She tells me the reason is that she has feelings for someone else that's she's also currently dating. She admitted that he probably wasn't the best guy but that it's been difficult to break it off with him. I played it nonchalantly, and basically told her that I understood and thanked her for being up front. I was ready to let her go, and believed that would be the end of it.
This evening, she texts me that she's sorry, again. I replied, "no biggie. I enjoyed the time we spent together and good luck finding your happiness." Her reply was that she still wants to spend time with me but feels pressured to be intimate even though that's the way she presented herself at the beginning. To me, it's kind of the same thing as "Just want to be friends".
It feels like a trap, and I won't be caught. She is throwing me a glimmer of hope. Common sense says to bail. Any suggestions? I haven't responded yet, but I think I'm going to say something like, "No, that's not going to work for me but thanks anyway" or something like that.