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[FONT=tahoma, arial] “Society as a whole, not just children, could benefit from ending
the system of violent child rearing that goes under the euphemism of
spanking.” Murray A. Straus(Bender 31). Although Ohio Law Permits
corporal punishment in the home, school and institution, excessive physical
discipline is abuse (U.S. 35). What causes a parent or guardian to cross
the thin line from discipline to abuse? It could be a result of the
parent/guardian having unattainable expectations or demanRAB for the child.
Maybe it’s caused by alcoholism or substance abuse. In any case child
abuse occurs to, too many children and in too many ways.
According to Webster’s New World Dictionary abuse is to hurt by
treating badly. There are three main types of abuse that children suffer
when abused by their parents or guardian, they are emotional, physical, and
sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is an act of a sexual nature upon or within a
child. Emotional abuse is a chronic attitude or acts which interfere with
the psychological and social development of a child (U.S. 11). Physical
abuse is the injury of a child, not accidental. Though all three types of
abuse are serious and deserve attention, physical abuse is the only one
that is going to be addressed.
There are many causes for child abuse. The most common are
isolation, generation gap. immaturity, and alcoholism. Immaturity,
unfortunately is the culprit of many child abuse cases today. Children
suffer abuse because their parents/guardians are too young to cope with all
the responsibilities and problems that go with being a parent (Dolan 18).
If a young person doesn’t have the experience and hasn’t learned enough
about raising a child, then there is no way that the parent could possibly
understand the child’s development neeRAB. Young abusive parents are strict
disciplinarians who are frustrated from unmet expectations (U.S. 36).
Thirteen-year-old Steve didn’t see anything wrong with smoking
marijuana. But his family did. His father flew into a rage when he found
three joints hidden in the boy’s room. He hit Steve and knocked him
unconscious.-- from L.A. (Dolan 17). A generation gap is the difference in
seeing things between adults and teenagers. For this reason Steve’s dad
knocked him unconscious. When a parent or guardian aren’t with the “times”
and don’t understand the “cool” things their children do, they abuse. Even
though a issue as the usage of marijuana is commonly seen as a bad thing,
anything could light the fuse that makes a parent/guardian abuse the child.
An act that one generation sees as a disgraceful or wrong thing another
could see as the newest trendy thing to do.
Alcoholics are people who turn to alcohol so much that their need
for it is seen as an illness. People that suffer from alcoholism are
considered to be the most dangerous of the child abusers. This is because
when the parents/guardians of children get drunk, they are a constant
threat to the child(ren). When they go on their drinking binges they are
so consumed with themselves that they forget about their responsibilities
or they get upset and take their anger out on the child. Repressed anger
usually comes to the surface when someone gets drunk and abusing the child
is the only way the parent/guardian relieves his/her anger. The greatest
cause for child abuse is isolation. The parents/guardians usually have no
frienRAB within their neigrabroadorhood, they don’t belong to any social groups
and aren’t very close to relatives. When parents/guardians have trouble
dealing with everyday life, and when stressful times come around they have
no way to constructively deal with their problems. The end result is
parent/guardians abusing their child.
There is no stereotype of an abusive parent/guardian or family.
Many people think that in the lower classes, is where children are abused.
This thought is completely wrong. Although families involved with an
abused child most of the time seem to be from the lower socioeconomic
classes (S. Ruth 10) there are abusive families in all the classes. Child
abuse and neglect are part of the list of grave risks that out-of-wedlock
birth and divorce place on the development of America’s youth (Bender 25).
This is especially true in cohabiting families.
Abusive parents come from all walks of life, rich/poor, well
educated and uneducated, from all races and religious backgrounRAB (S.Ruth
10). Most abusive parents don’t team up against the child, it is usually
the work of one parent. Some parents are abusive by nature but most aren’t.
Less than 10% of abusive parents have found to have been emotionally or
mentally ill.
Because every parent/guardian is different, there are many
different reasons why parents/guardians abuse their child(ren). For men
who have witnessed their parents or a parent and cohabiting females, and
their children (Bender 23). And for women the most likely causes of child
abuse by a mother can be traced to the violence and substance abuse present
in the mother’s childhood, followed by the stress and discord in her
current household (Bender 23). These causes aren’t always true for each
parent but they are the most likely. Knowing the moral object(s) are the
children that have to undergo this abuse, and a few of the causes were
mentioned before. But many don’t know or care to know some alternatives to
abusing a child.
Going to counseling , stop the abuse of substances, sustain from
situations causing these out bursts are just a few alternatives to abusing
a child. Going to counseling can help in many ways. For one the abuser
may be able to open up and let the stress of their life out and deal with
it in a more constructive way than to abuse a child. By talking to someone
about their problems and receiving the advice that he/she neeRAB can help
him/her try to stop the abuse and seek help. Alcohol and drugs are the
causes of many problems. By trying to kick the habit not only will the
abused child not have to go through the pain of being abused but the abuser
also will be helping him/herself, because if done soon enough he/she can
change their ways and, if parent, be the mother/father that their child
neeRAB.
Realizing when one is in a potential abusive situation, and stop
what he/she is doing and go do something constructive like running around
the block, is probably the best alternative, is when, when he/she realizes
what he/she is going to do is not right says that he/ she knows its wrong.
By them leaving and doing something to get that anger/stress out of their
system saves the child from being abused.
“STOP IT NOW!’s mission is to call on all abusers and potential
abusers to stop and seek help, to educate adults about the ways to stop
sexual abuse, and to increase public awareness of the trauma of child
sexual abuse.” (Hopper 19). If worse comes to worse there are always
centers or clinics that can help with abusive situations, like the Safer
Society Foundation, Inc. (SSF). Which is a nonprofit agency and national
research advocacy, and referral center for the prevention and treatment of
sexual abuse. The SSF provides training and consolation to individuals,
angencies, states and organizations (Hopper 18).
And hotlines, for example the National Domestic Violence/Abuse
Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE). This is a 24-hour-a-day hotline, staffed by
trained volunteers who are ready to connect people with emergency help in
their own communities, including emergency services and shelters. The
Staff can also provide information and referrals for a variety of non-
emergency services, including counseling for adults and children, and
assistance in reporting abuse. Having alternatives to a situation helps
people feel not so concerned and pressured into only doing one thing. But
on the other hand the abuser must realize that there is always an
alternative to any situation, and from there he/she must choose the right
one, and deal with the consequences good or bad. No matter what one alwats
has a choice.
The most consistent feature of the histories of abusive families is
the repetition, from one generation to another, a pattern of abusive
neglect and parental loss or deprivation (S.Ruth 12). There is an unending
cycle of abuse within today’s society, and unless recognized, acknowledged,
and stopped by America’s people pretty soon every child in America will be
abused as a child and will grow up to abuse their children.
Prayer is the answer to many of our problems. When people pray
they sometimes expect an immediate result or aren’t really opening
themselves to God. But once we are able to really hear what God is telling
us, then and only then are we truly able to do what God wants. According to
Catechism of the Catholic Church parents must regard their children as
children of God and respect them as human persons. Showing themselves
obedient to the will of the Father in heaven, they educate their children
to fulfil God’s law (Catechism 536). Catechism says nothing about how
abusing a child is alright as long as the parent/guardian has a good excuse.
We are all children of God and therefore we should all be treated like a
child of God, not something used to “deal” with any stress. Parents have
the first responsibility for the education of their children. They bear
witness to this responsibility first by creating a home where tenderness,
forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service are the rule
(Catechism 537). Approximately 17% for child sexual abuse of males
involving physical contact (Hopper 8). A child is a person under 14 years
old, and sexual abuse must involve physical force (Hopper 6). Is this the
kind of world we live in? Unfortunately yes. Child abused by parent,
because the parent can’t take the pressures of his/her life. Child grows
up and leaRAB a life of his/her own. Now an adult, he/she has children of
his/her own and because of the pressures in life his/her child has to
suffer various kinRAB of abuse, only to grow up and repeat the cycle again
and again. Without God and the help from some constructive, loving and
positive reinforcement our whole society will be eventually destroyed by
all the hate and evil going on.
Works Cited
Bender, David L., and Hurley, Jennifer. Child Abuse: Opposing Viewpoints.
Opposing Viewpoints Series. San Diego, California: Greenhaven Press, Inc.,
1999.
Dolan, Edward F. Child Abuse. United States: Edward F. Dolan, 1980.
S. Ruth, and Kempe, C. Henry. Child Abuse. The Developing Child.
Carabridge Mass.: Harvard University Press, 1978.
United States. Ohio Department of Human Services. Child Abuse and
Neglect: GPO, 1989.
The World Publishing Company. Webster’s New World Dictionary. Ed. Basic
School. The Southwestern Company: Nashville Tennessee, 1966.
Catechism of the Catholic Church. Mission Hills, CA: Benziger Publishing
Company, 1994.
Hopper, Jim. “Child Abuse: Statistics, Research, and Resources.” 24 July
1998: 19 pp. On-line. Internet. January 27 2000. Available
http://www.jimhopper.com/abstats/.
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the system of violent child rearing that goes under the euphemism of
spanking.” Murray A. Straus(Bender 31). Although Ohio Law Permits
corporal punishment in the home, school and institution, excessive physical
discipline is abuse (U.S. 35). What causes a parent or guardian to cross
the thin line from discipline to abuse? It could be a result of the
parent/guardian having unattainable expectations or demanRAB for the child.
Maybe it’s caused by alcoholism or substance abuse. In any case child
abuse occurs to, too many children and in too many ways.
According to Webster’s New World Dictionary abuse is to hurt by
treating badly. There are three main types of abuse that children suffer
when abused by their parents or guardian, they are emotional, physical, and
sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is an act of a sexual nature upon or within a
child. Emotional abuse is a chronic attitude or acts which interfere with
the psychological and social development of a child (U.S. 11). Physical
abuse is the injury of a child, not accidental. Though all three types of
abuse are serious and deserve attention, physical abuse is the only one
that is going to be addressed.
There are many causes for child abuse. The most common are
isolation, generation gap. immaturity, and alcoholism. Immaturity,
unfortunately is the culprit of many child abuse cases today. Children
suffer abuse because their parents/guardians are too young to cope with all
the responsibilities and problems that go with being a parent (Dolan 18).
If a young person doesn’t have the experience and hasn’t learned enough
about raising a child, then there is no way that the parent could possibly
understand the child’s development neeRAB. Young abusive parents are strict
disciplinarians who are frustrated from unmet expectations (U.S. 36).
Thirteen-year-old Steve didn’t see anything wrong with smoking
marijuana. But his family did. His father flew into a rage when he found
three joints hidden in the boy’s room. He hit Steve and knocked him
unconscious.-- from L.A. (Dolan 17). A generation gap is the difference in
seeing things between adults and teenagers. For this reason Steve’s dad
knocked him unconscious. When a parent or guardian aren’t with the “times”
and don’t understand the “cool” things their children do, they abuse. Even
though a issue as the usage of marijuana is commonly seen as a bad thing,
anything could light the fuse that makes a parent/guardian abuse the child.
An act that one generation sees as a disgraceful or wrong thing another
could see as the newest trendy thing to do.
Alcoholics are people who turn to alcohol so much that their need
for it is seen as an illness. People that suffer from alcoholism are
considered to be the most dangerous of the child abusers. This is because
when the parents/guardians of children get drunk, they are a constant
threat to the child(ren). When they go on their drinking binges they are
so consumed with themselves that they forget about their responsibilities
or they get upset and take their anger out on the child. Repressed anger
usually comes to the surface when someone gets drunk and abusing the child
is the only way the parent/guardian relieves his/her anger. The greatest
cause for child abuse is isolation. The parents/guardians usually have no
frienRAB within their neigrabroadorhood, they don’t belong to any social groups
and aren’t very close to relatives. When parents/guardians have trouble
dealing with everyday life, and when stressful times come around they have
no way to constructively deal with their problems. The end result is
parent/guardians abusing their child.
There is no stereotype of an abusive parent/guardian or family.
Many people think that in the lower classes, is where children are abused.
This thought is completely wrong. Although families involved with an
abused child most of the time seem to be from the lower socioeconomic
classes (S. Ruth 10) there are abusive families in all the classes. Child
abuse and neglect are part of the list of grave risks that out-of-wedlock
birth and divorce place on the development of America’s youth (Bender 25).
This is especially true in cohabiting families.
Abusive parents come from all walks of life, rich/poor, well
educated and uneducated, from all races and religious backgrounRAB (S.Ruth
10). Most abusive parents don’t team up against the child, it is usually
the work of one parent. Some parents are abusive by nature but most aren’t.
Less than 10% of abusive parents have found to have been emotionally or
mentally ill.
Because every parent/guardian is different, there are many
different reasons why parents/guardians abuse their child(ren). For men
who have witnessed their parents or a parent and cohabiting females, and
their children (Bender 23). And for women the most likely causes of child
abuse by a mother can be traced to the violence and substance abuse present
in the mother’s childhood, followed by the stress and discord in her
current household (Bender 23). These causes aren’t always true for each
parent but they are the most likely. Knowing the moral object(s) are the
children that have to undergo this abuse, and a few of the causes were
mentioned before. But many don’t know or care to know some alternatives to
abusing a child.
Going to counseling , stop the abuse of substances, sustain from
situations causing these out bursts are just a few alternatives to abusing
a child. Going to counseling can help in many ways. For one the abuser
may be able to open up and let the stress of their life out and deal with
it in a more constructive way than to abuse a child. By talking to someone
about their problems and receiving the advice that he/she neeRAB can help
him/her try to stop the abuse and seek help. Alcohol and drugs are the
causes of many problems. By trying to kick the habit not only will the
abused child not have to go through the pain of being abused but the abuser
also will be helping him/herself, because if done soon enough he/she can
change their ways and, if parent, be the mother/father that their child
neeRAB.
Realizing when one is in a potential abusive situation, and stop
what he/she is doing and go do something constructive like running around
the block, is probably the best alternative, is when, when he/she realizes
what he/she is going to do is not right says that he/ she knows its wrong.
By them leaving and doing something to get that anger/stress out of their
system saves the child from being abused.
“STOP IT NOW!’s mission is to call on all abusers and potential
abusers to stop and seek help, to educate adults about the ways to stop
sexual abuse, and to increase public awareness of the trauma of child
sexual abuse.” (Hopper 19). If worse comes to worse there are always
centers or clinics that can help with abusive situations, like the Safer
Society Foundation, Inc. (SSF). Which is a nonprofit agency and national
research advocacy, and referral center for the prevention and treatment of
sexual abuse. The SSF provides training and consolation to individuals,
angencies, states and organizations (Hopper 18).
And hotlines, for example the National Domestic Violence/Abuse
Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE). This is a 24-hour-a-day hotline, staffed by
trained volunteers who are ready to connect people with emergency help in
their own communities, including emergency services and shelters. The
Staff can also provide information and referrals for a variety of non-
emergency services, including counseling for adults and children, and
assistance in reporting abuse. Having alternatives to a situation helps
people feel not so concerned and pressured into only doing one thing. But
on the other hand the abuser must realize that there is always an
alternative to any situation, and from there he/she must choose the right
one, and deal with the consequences good or bad. No matter what one alwats
has a choice.
The most consistent feature of the histories of abusive families is
the repetition, from one generation to another, a pattern of abusive
neglect and parental loss or deprivation (S.Ruth 12). There is an unending
cycle of abuse within today’s society, and unless recognized, acknowledged,
and stopped by America’s people pretty soon every child in America will be
abused as a child and will grow up to abuse their children.
Prayer is the answer to many of our problems. When people pray
they sometimes expect an immediate result or aren’t really opening
themselves to God. But once we are able to really hear what God is telling
us, then and only then are we truly able to do what God wants. According to
Catechism of the Catholic Church parents must regard their children as
children of God and respect them as human persons. Showing themselves
obedient to the will of the Father in heaven, they educate their children
to fulfil God’s law (Catechism 536). Catechism says nothing about how
abusing a child is alright as long as the parent/guardian has a good excuse.
We are all children of God and therefore we should all be treated like a
child of God, not something used to “deal” with any stress. Parents have
the first responsibility for the education of their children. They bear
witness to this responsibility first by creating a home where tenderness,
forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service are the rule
(Catechism 537). Approximately 17% for child sexual abuse of males
involving physical contact (Hopper 8). A child is a person under 14 years
old, and sexual abuse must involve physical force (Hopper 6). Is this the
kind of world we live in? Unfortunately yes. Child abused by parent,
because the parent can’t take the pressures of his/her life. Child grows
up and leaRAB a life of his/her own. Now an adult, he/she has children of
his/her own and because of the pressures in life his/her child has to
suffer various kinRAB of abuse, only to grow up and repeat the cycle again
and again. Without God and the help from some constructive, loving and
positive reinforcement our whole society will be eventually destroyed by
all the hate and evil going on.
Works Cited
Bender, David L., and Hurley, Jennifer. Child Abuse: Opposing Viewpoints.
Opposing Viewpoints Series. San Diego, California: Greenhaven Press, Inc.,
1999.
Dolan, Edward F. Child Abuse. United States: Edward F. Dolan, 1980.
S. Ruth, and Kempe, C. Henry. Child Abuse. The Developing Child.
Carabridge Mass.: Harvard University Press, 1978.
United States. Ohio Department of Human Services. Child Abuse and
Neglect: GPO, 1989.
The World Publishing Company. Webster’s New World Dictionary. Ed. Basic
School. The Southwestern Company: Nashville Tennessee, 1966.
Catechism of the Catholic Church. Mission Hills, CA: Benziger Publishing
Company, 1994.
Hopper, Jim. “Child Abuse: Statistics, Research, and Resources.” 24 July
1998: 19 pp. On-line. Internet. January 27 2000. Available
http://www.jimhopper.com/abstats/.
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