I love my boyfriend to pieces - we have been dating for 6 months and talk very seriously about our future together. He is moving cities in 2010 to be at school where I was last year. The thing is he will be in halls, aka dorms, next year while I will be flatting, having been in halls last year.
Being quite bored and not actually snooping, I looked through his phone this morning and came across texts to one of his buddies. He was saying things about what it's going to be like in a hall next year, and how all the hot girls are gonna tempt him etc. His buddy text back saying 'dude you love her, wtf?" and he replied 'i love her to pieces, but Im not saying i wont be tempted, or more, especially if there's some stunner across the hall from me.'
I really don't know what to do with this. I had a freak out about it today and he noticed and I told him that I just didnt want him to miss out on the dorm/first year experience with drinking/partying/girls etc and if being in a relationship wasn't what he wanted, he could tell me. He told me it was.
So i'm really lost. I can't ask him about it without telling him i was reading through his phone. And even though I've kind of broached the subject, it still makes me feel sick and is eating away at me. Would he say that just to play down our r/ship with his buddy (who is very anti-r/ships after a break up and very into anything 'casual')? Does he mean what he is saying to his mate, or what he is saying to me?
Being quite bored and not actually snooping, I looked through his phone this morning and came across texts to one of his buddies. He was saying things about what it's going to be like in a hall next year, and how all the hot girls are gonna tempt him etc. His buddy text back saying 'dude you love her, wtf?" and he replied 'i love her to pieces, but Im not saying i wont be tempted, or more, especially if there's some stunner across the hall from me.'
I really don't know what to do with this. I had a freak out about it today and he noticed and I told him that I just didnt want him to miss out on the dorm/first year experience with drinking/partying/girls etc and if being in a relationship wasn't what he wanted, he could tell me. He told me it was.
So i'm really lost. I can't ask him about it without telling him i was reading through his phone. And even though I've kind of broached the subject, it still makes me feel sick and is eating away at me. Would he say that just to play down our r/ship with his buddy (who is very anti-r/ships after a break up and very into anything 'casual')? Does he mean what he is saying to his mate, or what he is saying to me?