Tense emotions from sister-in-law over 2nd pregnancy?

[Charlianne B]

My sister in law is a very hard person to get to know. She is in her mid-30's, married to a doctor, and basically has a snooty personality. Her and her husband were unable to conceive after years of trying and spent another few years on infertility. Finally got pregnant with twins in 2005. I married my husband when I was 23, got pregnant 1 month later, and am now pregnant again. My boys will be 13 months apart. I know she has some sort of resentment towards me for being able to conceive so easily. There is nothing I can do about their problem and I feel she should be happy to have the 2 children that she does. I plan to have 4 or 5 and I can tell she just gets really angry when I discuss my baby plans and she's within earshot. Honestly, it makes me very angry. Any suggestions as to how I can deal with this and maintain peace?

 

[maybaby]

She has no right to be made at your blessings. As long as it's strictly a conversation between you and someone else about your children (and future children), and your not rubbing it in her face, then you're not in a wrong position.
Your sister needs an attitude check. Infertility is a hard thing to go through, but no hard situation constitutes bad behavior.


If you do want to talk to your sister about it, let her know that she has two wonderful kids that she give her love to... and it's not a race. Tell her you are happy for her to have kids, so she should be happy too, but her attitude is not appreciate and kind of drop a "i know youre better than this" hint.

Also consider how infertility might be affecting her marriage. If she is feeling pressure by her husband to have more children when she can't, or the infertility is causing arguments, then that might be her source of rudeness.