it isnt mumps either. if you look up the symptoms of mumps i only have one. which is swelling(along with several other issues, swelling is a common side effect). i havent had a fever and the parotid gland that would be the gland thats infected for mumps and its in front of the ear. alot of my pain is behind my ear and down my neck. i do have some pain in front of my ear but its not nearly as bad as the other areas. the nurse i saw basically ruled this out due to other symptoms. my neck is very sore and i can almost not stand. the first symptoms of mumps is a headache and fever. i never had a fever and i just got my headache monday, after all the swelling and pain was already occurring. thanks for trying though i appreciate your help.