Since the time my daughter was born i have never had time with her without her mother around. She is 2 years old, and I have also raised a 1 year old boy with my fiance' (we have been dating for 3 years now). My daughter's mother and I were never married and she got pregnant after we broke up, unfortunately. She has always refused alone time with my daughter, first b/c of my girlfriend, then b/c i hadn't proved myself...so i decided that all we did is argue and nothing was getting solved and i was going to just save up for a lawyer. Well, a year went by and that never happened...so here I am attempting with her again. I have been visiting once a week for 8-9 hours over at my daughter's mother's house with her there the entire time. I also bring my son along so that he can get a chance to know his sister...but now, apparently him being there is not beneficial for my daughter b/c she has to compete with him for my attention, and she throws temper tantrums when he is around...even though the doctor wanted her to put my daughter in a class with other children b/c she doesnt speak any words at the age of 2 and has no interaction with anyone other than her mother and her bf..... (my ex's words) ... but interaction with her own brother is not beneficial....She told me this tonight.
See, on one of the recent visits i offered to take my daughter out shopping for new clothes (no i dont pay child support b/c she refuses it and say i have to sign myself up...she really doesnt need it to be honest, she doesnt even support herself. Her family is rich and she lives in a house that they gave her, she pays no bills, not even her phone or internet/cable, they buy my daughter's diapers..i only know b/c i offered to...) me, on the other i hand..i am a waiter at a restaraunt and support myself, my son, and my fiance' and DO pay all my own bills. (not to mention im very much i debt from a car that was reposessed after we broke up and she kept ALL of both of our belongings after the split besides me clothes...so i had to start completely fresh with things like dishes, etc.) ....and she said again, as always that she is "not comfortable with my daughter leaving with anyone without her being there as well" (and she does mean everyone...no one in my family even knows what she looks like b/c i am only "allowed" visits at her house...so, her bf gets upset and says he is going to talk to her, comes back and claims that she has agreed to drop her off at my house this week, and when i talk to her she says that never happened. Apparently his "memory is bad"
Long story short, I need to file for visitation. WE both live in Ohio, I am on the birth certificate, and I need to know how to get the ball rolling. She will have a lawyer, as I said her parents are millionaires and take care of her still...also, I have a felony 2 from when i was 18. She will more than likely try to use that against me...actually, she has already said as much.
I have kept records of alot of conversations such as this, have video of myself with my daughter, and plenty of pictures....I dont do drugs, or gamble, im not abusive...so in short no she does not have any valid reasons other than that ...sigh....she just doesnt want to do it. "my daughter wont be comfortable" "i need to prove myself" "she is her mother and decides what is best for her" "im letting my pride get in the way of being a real Dad" (yeah b/c being a real dad is visitng once a week with her there the entire time, right?)
any help would be greatly appreciated. Please. I am probably going to try and use my tax refund for whatever expenses i may need, hopefully it wil be enough. But i need the info first!
How do you file for a petition of custody?
See, on one of the recent visits i offered to take my daughter out shopping for new clothes (no i dont pay child support b/c she refuses it and say i have to sign myself up...she really doesnt need it to be honest, she doesnt even support herself. Her family is rich and she lives in a house that they gave her, she pays no bills, not even her phone or internet/cable, they buy my daughter's diapers..i only know b/c i offered to...) me, on the other i hand..i am a waiter at a restaraunt and support myself, my son, and my fiance' and DO pay all my own bills. (not to mention im very much i debt from a car that was reposessed after we broke up and she kept ALL of both of our belongings after the split besides me clothes...so i had to start completely fresh with things like dishes, etc.) ....and she said again, as always that she is "not comfortable with my daughter leaving with anyone without her being there as well" (and she does mean everyone...no one in my family even knows what she looks like b/c i am only "allowed" visits at her house...so, her bf gets upset and says he is going to talk to her, comes back and claims that she has agreed to drop her off at my house this week, and when i talk to her she says that never happened. Apparently his "memory is bad"
Long story short, I need to file for visitation. WE both live in Ohio, I am on the birth certificate, and I need to know how to get the ball rolling. She will have a lawyer, as I said her parents are millionaires and take care of her still...also, I have a felony 2 from when i was 18. She will more than likely try to use that against me...actually, she has already said as much.
I have kept records of alot of conversations such as this, have video of myself with my daughter, and plenty of pictures....I dont do drugs, or gamble, im not abusive...so in short no she does not have any valid reasons other than that ...sigh....she just doesnt want to do it. "my daughter wont be comfortable" "i need to prove myself" "she is her mother and decides what is best for her" "im letting my pride get in the way of being a real Dad" (yeah b/c being a real dad is visitng once a week with her there the entire time, right?)
any help would be greatly appreciated. Please. I am probably going to try and use my tax refund for whatever expenses i may need, hopefully it wil be enough. But i need the info first!
How do you file for a petition of custody?