So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and things have been great. We get into the occasional fight and everything but we tend to solve things fast and our relationship overall is really really good. A year ago, we used to have sex alot. And the sex is pretty great most of the time when we do, so I wasn't complaining. But recently like for the past two months ish, he's been so tired! A while ago he told me it was problems with his balls, like if he is too often sexually active his balls can't handle that, and it hurt, so I bought it. But basically, we have sex MUCH less because he's never in the mood when we're together. And I've always just gave in because i didn't want to pressure him. but just today i kept asking him, how come you're never in the mood anymore? and he was like, I'm just tired! I masturbate too often! SO that got me really ticked off. So I'm supposed to deal with a sucky sex life and he can do whatever he wants?! How should I confront him! Please help!!! I want my sex life back
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Sucky Sex Life but Great Relationship? How do I confront him?
- Thread starter Sabrina
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A lot of things can effect a guys libido, blood pressure, iron deficiency, a diet high in sugar or fat, lack of excercise, dehydration, depression and the most common is poor circulation.
Is there a reason for him to be tired? Is he working long hours or working a very physical job? If so then you can either see if the work is likely to change, or sort out less shifts or a change of career.
For the physical side there are things that you can help with, diet for example (make sure he is getting a good balanced diet including red meat for iron, and if he is accepting a multi-vitimin. Also the diet should be high in fibre but low in sugar and fat), hydration should be easy (water bottle at work), excercise can be harder to inspire and it depends on what he enjoys doing.
If he is willing you could get a blood test to check his vitimin, iron and gluclose levels. A lot of fat or sugar in the blood will make it thicker and thereby reduce circulation. Good hydration helps, but if poor circulation is a possibility (does he have cold hands and feet, that is usually the first sign) then you could try a suppliment like ginkgo biloba.
A lot of the fix depends on him admitting its different and wanting to change. If he does that then taking suppliments, excercise and diet is all easy. If he refuses to admit its wrong, then it will be very hard to make any major lifestyle changes.
Is there a reason for him to be tired? Is he working long hours or working a very physical job? If so then you can either see if the work is likely to change, or sort out less shifts or a change of career.
For the physical side there are things that you can help with, diet for example (make sure he is getting a good balanced diet including red meat for iron, and if he is accepting a multi-vitimin. Also the diet should be high in fibre but low in sugar and fat), hydration should be easy (water bottle at work), excercise can be harder to inspire and it depends on what he enjoys doing.
If he is willing you could get a blood test to check his vitimin, iron and gluclose levels. A lot of fat or sugar in the blood will make it thicker and thereby reduce circulation. Good hydration helps, but if poor circulation is a possibility (does he have cold hands and feet, that is usually the first sign) then you could try a suppliment like ginkgo biloba.
A lot of the fix depends on him admitting its different and wanting to change. If he does that then taking suppliments, excercise and diet is all easy. If he refuses to admit its wrong, then it will be very hard to make any major lifestyle changes.
ANGEL BABY
New member
yes I think you should confront him because why would you masturbate and you have a girlfriend that wants to have sex. Make sure he is not cheating because that's what it sounds like to me. Don't jump to any conclusions I 'm not saying he is cheating I'm just saying he don't make any sense.
purplefloridatexas
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Sit him down and tell him when he needs to be mastibated that you will be more tha happy to take care of him. That you do not care what time of day or night that might be. Then see what excuse he come up with. Personaly I think he is lying to you. He is getting it some where else and just using this as an excuse to you. If yo offer of mastibate him that will cut off that excuse. Good luck. If he comes up with some other excuse think up something else to cut off the exvcuse. Even offer to take him to the doctor.Good Luck.
annaqtjoey
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ok, firstly i should give an advice to your boyfriend. go to the doctor. if there is something wrong with his balls then its good to know about the problem from a professional not random people in the internet.
it that's not the case... he's always saying he's tired? then learn how to do massage. tease him a bit and then leave him to finish it by himself. treat it as a punishment for such a lousy sex. after all the shenanigans, he's practically pounce you and pound you like you always wanted!
have you tried watching porn together?
forbade him from touching his prick ever again! he's tired to do sex with you because he masturbates a lot? if he love his hand more than your **, well, your in for a few months!
it that's not the case... he's always saying he's tired? then learn how to do massage. tease him a bit and then leave him to finish it by himself. treat it as a punishment for such a lousy sex. after all the shenanigans, he's practically pounce you and pound you like you always wanted!
have you tried watching porn together?
forbade him from touching his prick ever again! he's tired to do sex with you because he masturbates a lot? if he love his hand more than your **, well, your in for a few months!
he needs to realise that your needs count as much as his. there could be underlying problems here though, like erection problems or worst case scenario, he could be cheating. however if none of these are true you need to give him an ultimatum; put you before his right hand, or you leave and find someone that will satisfy you fully
annaqtjoey
New member
ok, firstly i should give an advice to your boyfriend. go to the doctor. if there is something wrong with his balls then its good to know about the problem from a professional not random people in the internet.
it that's not the case... he's always saying he's tired? then learn how to do massage. tease him a bit and then leave him to finish it by himself. treat it as a punishment for such a lousy sex. after all the shenanigans, he's practically pounce you and pound you like you always wanted!
have you tried watching porn together?
forbade him from touching his prick ever again! he's tired to do sex with you because he masturbates a lot? if he love his hand more than your **, well, your in for a few months!
it that's not the case... he's always saying he's tired? then learn how to do massage. tease him a bit and then leave him to finish it by himself. treat it as a punishment for such a lousy sex. after all the shenanigans, he's practically pounce you and pound you like you always wanted!
have you tried watching porn together?
forbade him from touching his prick ever again! he's tired to do sex with you because he masturbates a lot? if he love his hand more than your **, well, your in for a few months!