labellemere
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sees them!? SMIL is completely ani-homeschool. That's really quite fine with me-I didn't make the decision with consideration for anyone other than my kids.
But it's really just over the top with her - Every time she visits she has devised some "test" for some or all of them...she wanted to prove that I should put YDSS back in school since he was already having such a hard time with reading. She was afraid he would get more behind, so to prove her point she'd composed a letter and made YDSS read it aloud to "prove" to us he was doing worse...of course he was actually doing far better and I'm proud to say he aced her letter (AND her follow up questions )
On this last trip she really pissed my off though...I do history differently than the public schools. We do it chronologically, basically, and DD7 has been learning about the ancient Celts and Anglo-Saxons recently. SMIL asked her what she'd been learning and DD7 took her into our school room and showed her the map and proceeded to demonstrate where these groups of people had come from, their impact on history and some of their cultural and religious beliefs, and even gave her a short retelling of Beowulf. It was so sweet. Then SMIL says "Well I have a few questions if you don't mind...what country to you live in?" DD KNOWS that we live in the USA, but I think she got a little flustered and said "Georgia" instead...of course SMIL turns to me and says "She doesn't even know what COUNTRY she's in *omg* ?? Isn't that absolute basic stuff? Are you sure you're keeping them up to date???" We are in the process of memorizing the constitution, American history is NOT lacking in our home, rest assured. She just goes on and on though...wanting DD to show her America on the map and everything. She starts in on "What about dissections? They won't be able to do those in homeschool! What a disservice!!"...( this year in co-op, DD7 dissected a brain, an eyeball, a worm, a kidney, a starfish, and a heart-here they don't do that in school until middle school...I shared this with her, but she kept finding new issues, as always)
I need this to stop. Like, NOW. Yep! I do not need someone who hasn't even been in a school building for 40 years to quiz my child for me...and certainly not every time she SEES them!
Any suggestions for putting an end to this? I am so bad with ANY kind of confrontation, and despite a lot of this, I actually LIKE smil and get along with her...I need some phrasing that is firm but nice.
Here's the thing-I don't CARE if she sees things my way, I just want her to stop putting the kids under pressure at each visit. She can hate that we homeschool 'till the cows come home, but she must stop undermining us and testing them.
Of course...in addition to each child having a folder of completed work, in GA you have to test them ever 3 years. That, AND the fact that my oldest stepson blew away the SATs after failing each year of highschool before we took him out and my youngest stepson can actually READ well beyond his grade level (when we took him out he was years behind his grade level)...my kids are all either performing at or above expectation level
But it's really just over the top with her - Every time she visits she has devised some "test" for some or all of them...she wanted to prove that I should put YDSS back in school since he was already having such a hard time with reading. She was afraid he would get more behind, so to prove her point she'd composed a letter and made YDSS read it aloud to "prove" to us he was doing worse...of course he was actually doing far better and I'm proud to say he aced her letter (AND her follow up questions )
On this last trip she really pissed my off though...I do history differently than the public schools. We do it chronologically, basically, and DD7 has been learning about the ancient Celts and Anglo-Saxons recently. SMIL asked her what she'd been learning and DD7 took her into our school room and showed her the map and proceeded to demonstrate where these groups of people had come from, their impact on history and some of their cultural and religious beliefs, and even gave her a short retelling of Beowulf. It was so sweet. Then SMIL says "Well I have a few questions if you don't mind...what country to you live in?" DD KNOWS that we live in the USA, but I think she got a little flustered and said "Georgia" instead...of course SMIL turns to me and says "She doesn't even know what COUNTRY she's in *omg* ?? Isn't that absolute basic stuff? Are you sure you're keeping them up to date???" We are in the process of memorizing the constitution, American history is NOT lacking in our home, rest assured. She just goes on and on though...wanting DD to show her America on the map and everything. She starts in on "What about dissections? They won't be able to do those in homeschool! What a disservice!!"...( this year in co-op, DD7 dissected a brain, an eyeball, a worm, a kidney, a starfish, and a heart-here they don't do that in school until middle school...I shared this with her, but she kept finding new issues, as always)
I need this to stop. Like, NOW. Yep! I do not need someone who hasn't even been in a school building for 40 years to quiz my child for me...and certainly not every time she SEES them!
Any suggestions for putting an end to this? I am so bad with ANY kind of confrontation, and despite a lot of this, I actually LIKE smil and get along with her...I need some phrasing that is firm but nice.
Here's the thing-I don't CARE if she sees things my way, I just want her to stop putting the kids under pressure at each visit. She can hate that we homeschool 'till the cows come home, but she must stop undermining us and testing them.
Of course...in addition to each child having a folder of completed work, in GA you have to test them ever 3 years. That, AND the fact that my oldest stepson blew away the SATs after failing each year of highschool before we took him out and my youngest stepson can actually READ well beyond his grade level (when we took him out he was years behind his grade level)...my kids are all either performing at or above expectation level