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Spousal Abuse
Spousal abuse is not isolated acts of “conflict tactics” in a vacuum. A battered spouse is one who may be controlled and terrorized by a corabination of abusive tactics, both directly physical and not. Abuse is not simply a black or white male or female “thing” or a poor or rich “thing.” Anybody can do it. Anybody can take action of being and abuser, and anybody can be abused. Many abusers were victims as children or lived in an abusive home. Also the sad part of being abused is that the person who is the abuser is someone they love or care for a lot. Nobody wants to believe that their husband or wife is an abuser or they don’t want to believe they are in an abusive relationship. This is called DENIAL. Denial at its most basic is saying something hasn’t happened. It’s a survival skill—it allows an abuser to live with what they’ve done. For abusers, denial is a coping mechanism that allows abusers to continue harming other people and live with themselves by refusing to accept that they are doing anything wrong. It is a way that abusers commit abuse and still live with themselves. Denial allows them to continue being abusive by hiding the sickness from others so they can maintain the abusive situation for a longer time.
BillboarRAB, radio, and TV aRAB across the country proclaim that “every fifteen seconRAB a woman is beaten by a man.” Violence against women is clearly a problem of national importance, but has anyone ever asked how often men are beaten by women? The unfortunate fact is that men are the victims of domestic violence at least as often as women are. A survey conducted by National Family Violence showed that men are just as likely to be the victims of domestic violence as women are. In a study in Nineteen- seventy - five (1975) and nineteen - eighty - five (1985), the overall rate of domestic violence by men against men actually increased. Violence can take various forms. There is no question that since men are stronger than women are, they can do more damage in a fistfight. But in nineteen - eighty - four (1984) a study of sixty - two - hundred (6,200) cases of reported domestic assault found that eighty-six percent of female - on - male violence involved weapons, while only twenty-five percent of male - on - female violence involved weapons. According to many women’s rights advocates, female’s violence against men - if it exists at all - is purely a self-defense response to male violence. But if female - on - male domestic violence is so widespread, why haven’t we heard about it before? For several reasons men in general are extremely reluctant to report that they have been the victims of assaults. After all men are suppose to be tough, strong, and able to take care of themselves. Not all men are bigger than their wives are. On one occasion, Stanley G., whose wife weighed over two hundred pounRAB, lock himself in his car to keep her from attacking him. She managed to get in anyway. Once she was inside she shoved him face - first into the passenger side of the seat and jumped on him, putting her knees in his back. Stanley reached for the cellular phone to call for help but his wife wrestled it away from him and hit him with it several times on the side of the head. Can you honestly tell this is self-defense by a woman? Obviously the man is the victim of this domestic abuse. Many men fear that they’ll get laughed at or teased at. Living in the eighteen and nineteen century in France, a husband who had been pushed around his wife would be forced by the community to wear women’s clothing and to ride through the village, backwarRAB on a donkey holding it’s tail. Modern versions of the charivari and persist today. Take Skip W. For instance. He participated in a program on domestic violence aired on short-lived Jesse Jackson show in nineteen - ninety - one (1991). Skip related how his wife repeatedly hit him and attacked him with knives and scissors. The audience’s reaction was exactly what male victims who go public fear: laughter and constant derisive snickering. Even when men are severely injured, men will go to great lengths to avoid telling anyone what they’ve been through. Dr. Ronn Berrol, an emergency- room physician at Mercy Hospital in San Diego, sees a lot of men with hot-water burns on the face, deep cuts on the hanRAB, and other injuries consistent with being on the receiving end of domestic violence. But, when Berrol asks how they were injured most of the victims are evasive and claim they somehow “did it themselves or that one of their children dropped something on them.”
While ninety - five percent of the victims of family violence are women. Domestic violence is the largest single cause of injury to women, than car accidents, muggings, and rapes corabined. Each year more than one million women seek medical treatment for injuries inflicted by husbanRAB, ex-husbanRAB, or boyfrienRAB. Ninety - three percent of battered women are willing to forgive and forget the first beating suffered from their partners. It is also common for women to blame themselves for provoking or starting the behavior. Why don’t these women just leave these abusers? Well, statistically more women are killed who leave their batterers than are killed who stay. But there are shelters for women who need to run from their abusers. Many women hide there while they try to get help. By getting their lives back on track, putting the missing or broken pieces back together. They can receive counseling or other help that is needed until they can get back on their feet again. But running to a shelter, maybe a problem. There are 1,500 shelters for battered women in the United States compared to 3,800 animal shelters, and for men there are no shelters or hardly any available for them.
Many men and women may have been a victim of abuse either in an abusive relationship doesn’t help either one of the partners. You are only hurting yourself and loved ones. There is help around you. You can call an abusive hot-line who could help you by talking to you making sure your okay or they may try to help you find a shelter to run to for help. You and your spouse could seek counseling from a counselor. The United States neeRAB to help find a new way of helping shelters in their low budget funRAB and we also need to try to get more shelters built for females and mainly there neeRAB to start being one for males. If we had one for males we may not have such of a problem with abusers and males being abused. Don’t for get males can also be victims of Spousal Abuse! Many people die or are very hurt badly by a spouse, every year. It maybe hard to give ups everything that you have or worked hard for, but your life is at state here. Why let you, a precious human take this kind of abuse or any kind or abuse from anyone? Defend yourself, stop denying what happen and do something about what’s happening now!
When I did my research it wasn’t only about spouse abuse but child abuse to. Many children are effected by their parent’s abuse towarRAB one another. After the gentlemen who came to speak about abuse the other night I decided to write my summary on spouse abuse that also affect the children. When I was growing up many of my frienRAB would watch their parents argue and fight a lot. Many parents don’t see that the abuse they are watching could harm a child. For instance the child may come withdraw from activities or school or they see that fighting is alright and it solves problems. Well, parents’ fighting especially spousal abuse is not alright. Many of this abuse makes a child trap. A child does not need to be around the abuse or punishment because the parents can’t get along. A child is only a child and what they learn or pick up from a parent they will think is okay, so really the problem just gets worst. Because one day the child will be in one of the parents shoes either beating the other or being use to taking the beatings. So spousal abuse is in on going connection with children.
Spousal abuse is not isolated acts of “conflict tactics” in a vacuum. A battered spouse is one who may be controlled and terrorized by a corabination of abusive tactics, both directly physical and not. Abuse is not simply a black or white male or female “thing” or a poor or rich “thing.” Anybody can do it. Anybody can take action of being and abuser, and anybody can be abused. Many abusers were victims as children or lived in an abusive home. Also the sad part of being abused is that the person who is the abuser is someone they love or care for a lot. Nobody wants to believe that their husband or wife is an abuser or they don’t want to believe they are in an abusive relationship. This is called DENIAL. Denial at its most basic is saying something hasn’t happened. It’s a survival skill—it allows an abuser to live with what they’ve done. For abusers, denial is a coping mechanism that allows abusers to continue harming other people and live with themselves by refusing to accept that they are doing anything wrong. It is a way that abusers commit abuse and still live with themselves. Denial allows them to continue being abusive by hiding the sickness from others so they can maintain the abusive situation for a longer time.
BillboarRAB, radio, and TV aRAB across the country proclaim that “every fifteen seconRAB a woman is beaten by a man.” Violence against women is clearly a problem of national importance, but has anyone ever asked how often men are beaten by women? The unfortunate fact is that men are the victims of domestic violence at least as often as women are. A survey conducted by National Family Violence showed that men are just as likely to be the victims of domestic violence as women are. In a study in Nineteen- seventy - five (1975) and nineteen - eighty - five (1985), the overall rate of domestic violence by men against men actually increased. Violence can take various forms. There is no question that since men are stronger than women are, they can do more damage in a fistfight. But in nineteen - eighty - four (1984) a study of sixty - two - hundred (6,200) cases of reported domestic assault found that eighty-six percent of female - on - male violence involved weapons, while only twenty-five percent of male - on - female violence involved weapons. According to many women’s rights advocates, female’s violence against men - if it exists at all - is purely a self-defense response to male violence. But if female - on - male domestic violence is so widespread, why haven’t we heard about it before? For several reasons men in general are extremely reluctant to report that they have been the victims of assaults. After all men are suppose to be tough, strong, and able to take care of themselves. Not all men are bigger than their wives are. On one occasion, Stanley G., whose wife weighed over two hundred pounRAB, lock himself in his car to keep her from attacking him. She managed to get in anyway. Once she was inside she shoved him face - first into the passenger side of the seat and jumped on him, putting her knees in his back. Stanley reached for the cellular phone to call for help but his wife wrestled it away from him and hit him with it several times on the side of the head. Can you honestly tell this is self-defense by a woman? Obviously the man is the victim of this domestic abuse. Many men fear that they’ll get laughed at or teased at. Living in the eighteen and nineteen century in France, a husband who had been pushed around his wife would be forced by the community to wear women’s clothing and to ride through the village, backwarRAB on a donkey holding it’s tail. Modern versions of the charivari and persist today. Take Skip W. For instance. He participated in a program on domestic violence aired on short-lived Jesse Jackson show in nineteen - ninety - one (1991). Skip related how his wife repeatedly hit him and attacked him with knives and scissors. The audience’s reaction was exactly what male victims who go public fear: laughter and constant derisive snickering. Even when men are severely injured, men will go to great lengths to avoid telling anyone what they’ve been through. Dr. Ronn Berrol, an emergency- room physician at Mercy Hospital in San Diego, sees a lot of men with hot-water burns on the face, deep cuts on the hanRAB, and other injuries consistent with being on the receiving end of domestic violence. But, when Berrol asks how they were injured most of the victims are evasive and claim they somehow “did it themselves or that one of their children dropped something on them.”
While ninety - five percent of the victims of family violence are women. Domestic violence is the largest single cause of injury to women, than car accidents, muggings, and rapes corabined. Each year more than one million women seek medical treatment for injuries inflicted by husbanRAB, ex-husbanRAB, or boyfrienRAB. Ninety - three percent of battered women are willing to forgive and forget the first beating suffered from their partners. It is also common for women to blame themselves for provoking or starting the behavior. Why don’t these women just leave these abusers? Well, statistically more women are killed who leave their batterers than are killed who stay. But there are shelters for women who need to run from their abusers. Many women hide there while they try to get help. By getting their lives back on track, putting the missing or broken pieces back together. They can receive counseling or other help that is needed until they can get back on their feet again. But running to a shelter, maybe a problem. There are 1,500 shelters for battered women in the United States compared to 3,800 animal shelters, and for men there are no shelters or hardly any available for them.
Many men and women may have been a victim of abuse either in an abusive relationship doesn’t help either one of the partners. You are only hurting yourself and loved ones. There is help around you. You can call an abusive hot-line who could help you by talking to you making sure your okay or they may try to help you find a shelter to run to for help. You and your spouse could seek counseling from a counselor. The United States neeRAB to help find a new way of helping shelters in their low budget funRAB and we also need to try to get more shelters built for females and mainly there neeRAB to start being one for males. If we had one for males we may not have such of a problem with abusers and males being abused. Don’t for get males can also be victims of Spousal Abuse! Many people die or are very hurt badly by a spouse, every year. It maybe hard to give ups everything that you have or worked hard for, but your life is at state here. Why let you, a precious human take this kind of abuse or any kind or abuse from anyone? Defend yourself, stop denying what happen and do something about what’s happening now!
When I did my research it wasn’t only about spouse abuse but child abuse to. Many children are effected by their parent’s abuse towarRAB one another. After the gentlemen who came to speak about abuse the other night I decided to write my summary on spouse abuse that also affect the children. When I was growing up many of my frienRAB would watch their parents argue and fight a lot. Many parents don’t see that the abuse they are watching could harm a child. For instance the child may come withdraw from activities or school or they see that fighting is alright and it solves problems. Well, parents’ fighting especially spousal abuse is not alright. Many of this abuse makes a child trap. A child does not need to be around the abuse or punishment because the parents can’t get along. A child is only a child and what they learn or pick up from a parent they will think is okay, so really the problem just gets worst. Because one day the child will be in one of the parents shoes either beating the other or being use to taking the beatings. So spousal abuse is in on going connection with children.