My goal ****I would like to be that guy who is charismatic, who does not give a **** what other people think about him, enjoys small talk, enjoys talking in general and can carry on a conversation with his smooth voice. ***
I have never been good at conversations…At times I mumble and sometimes for some unknown reason I change the tone of my voice so that I have a low pitch (it sounds unnatural and people always make fun of me for changing my voice). Because I am a thinker, and don't really have that many friends I don't talk a lot. I would like that to change, even if it means practicing and learning how to speak properly.
Part 1) of my question is...What I can do to sound naturally, without trying to change the tone of my voice and also pronounce my words so I do not mumble.
Part 2) another thing is I have a lot of insecurities and reason why I probably have these issues. So whenever I try to talk to someone and carry on a conversation I stumble a lot. I have horrible concentration and I sometimes don't remember what that person was saying (also prob because I am trying to figure out something to say after they are done). I also forget my words or what I was trying to say and whenever I am trying to say something I stumble around ....It ends up with the other person saying: What did you say? And me telling them it was nothing.
Part 3) because I am a thinker....and never really learned to be social...I sometimes Do not want to talk at all... Even if I see someone I know. I know it is rude...but I do not know what happens at that moment, a mental wall appears, and I just want to listen to my ipod and continue walking. I think that just occurs because I hate small talking...or I rather listen to my music than talk to someone. So how do I solve this problem?
Part 4). What will help me overall? Do you think building my vocabulary will help? Reading current events? Also a person once told me people love talking about themselves...so get to know them. ( Like I said before in part 3…I do not know why...I know it is rude...but I honestly could care less how your day went or what you ate...Unless I knew you really well. I think that comes with small talk once again. )
LAST thing! I LOVE LOVE talking when I am drinking. I am friendly, funny, and DO NOT care what people think of me. I wish I was like that most of the time…But when I am not drunk I am quiet, and chill person who thinks a lot about his insecurities.
A lot of issues if you could help me in all 4 parts would be great....Thanks in advance
I have never been good at conversations…At times I mumble and sometimes for some unknown reason I change the tone of my voice so that I have a low pitch (it sounds unnatural and people always make fun of me for changing my voice). Because I am a thinker, and don't really have that many friends I don't talk a lot. I would like that to change, even if it means practicing and learning how to speak properly.
Part 1) of my question is...What I can do to sound naturally, without trying to change the tone of my voice and also pronounce my words so I do not mumble.
Part 2) another thing is I have a lot of insecurities and reason why I probably have these issues. So whenever I try to talk to someone and carry on a conversation I stumble a lot. I have horrible concentration and I sometimes don't remember what that person was saying (also prob because I am trying to figure out something to say after they are done). I also forget my words or what I was trying to say and whenever I am trying to say something I stumble around ....It ends up with the other person saying: What did you say? And me telling them it was nothing.
Part 3) because I am a thinker....and never really learned to be social...I sometimes Do not want to talk at all... Even if I see someone I know. I know it is rude...but I do not know what happens at that moment, a mental wall appears, and I just want to listen to my ipod and continue walking. I think that just occurs because I hate small talking...or I rather listen to my music than talk to someone. So how do I solve this problem?
Part 4). What will help me overall? Do you think building my vocabulary will help? Reading current events? Also a person once told me people love talking about themselves...so get to know them. ( Like I said before in part 3…I do not know why...I know it is rude...but I honestly could care less how your day went or what you ate...Unless I knew you really well. I think that comes with small talk once again. )
LAST thing! I LOVE LOVE talking when I am drinking. I am friendly, funny, and DO NOT care what people think of me. I wish I was like that most of the time…But when I am not drunk I am quiet, and chill person who thinks a lot about his insecurities.
A lot of issues if you could help me in all 4 parts would be great....Thanks in advance